My DH was sabotaging me too. He does the grocery shopping, so he would bring home all kinds of lovely treats. He bought me junk food so he could justify all of the junk he was eating. Then one day, my doctor told me that I needed to take control and not worry about hurting his feelings. So I had the difficult talk with him. I asked him to support me in my desire to get healthy. He is also overweight by over 100 lbs. I told him that I couldn't do it without his support and that I really wanted to get physically fit because I thought my arthritis would improve it I weren't carrying 100 extra pounds around. I told him that he didn't have to make any changes for himself, but to please stop bringing the junk food into the house because I just didn't have the will power to resist it. I asked him to go to weight watchers with me and he actually agreed, but he was very angry about it. We had a family tradition of donuts on Sunday. My MIL brings over 3 doz donuts, and all of our children and grandchildren are invited to come over and have donuts with ut. My DH told her that she had to stop bringing donuts because I didn't want junk in the house. He figured if I thought it would hurt her feelings, I would back down. I had a talk with her about supporting us in losing weight. She agreed, and for the past 4 months, she brings over WW muffins, and snack cakes, and cookies. The have a very low point value and when I take them out of the Weight Watchers boxes and put them in a large decorative bowl, the grandkids don't even suspect. I put ou fruit in a bowl instead of candy in a candy dish. And I give away anything that comes into our house after one or two pieces (b-day cakes, christmas candy, cookies, etc). Our lives are changing and DH isn't as angry, he has lost nearly 10% of his weight, and he is starting to feel better and is getting comments on how much he has lost. It is a battle when someone is sabatoging. Sometimes we have to dig really deep to find the courage to stand up to those we love.