Thanks for the advice Janice.
Even though our finances are alright. We are a 1 income family so I cannot go out and spend 100-200$ a month. But we do end up having money that can be spent and it does get spent. I just married a guy that doesn't like his wife to spend money.
My mom is my great enabler. Last weekend when I wanted to buy fabric for a planned quilt. I had 5$ on me. I have saved up a lot of books for years so I gathered all that I could part with and took them to the used book store I got 20$ out of that. Well my fabric came to 35$ and my mom covered the last bit.
I realized years ago my husband does not like spending money when we went into a thrift store and I saw an outfit I wanted. It was like 5-10$. I asked if I could get it and he said maybe next week. (knowing that at a thrift store there was no guarantee it would be there next week) He never took me back and I realized that was the brush off
I am never able to hide my spending as he handles all the money so I have to get it from him if I get any. when I do get some I save it.
Like I said before I picked him. I was young and didnt realized my choice fully but it has been 8 years. You learn to live with your spouse's quirks, mine just happens to be no spending by me. I do love the man so what can I do.
He doesn't drink, or do drugs, he doesn't stay out all night with friends or other women. In fact we spend all our time together unless he is at work. I use to work with him but not anymore now that I am disabled. So other then money I have little to complain about :)
Originally Posted by janice4
Originally Posted by AbbyQuilts
Originally Posted by nellebelles
For those of you who have complaining spouses, maybe if you make him/her a quilt of their own, showcasing a hobby or something special they like, it might change the way they think about your hobby... Worth a try, maybe? ;-)
I made him one. He likes it, I made him a flannel plaid rag quilt.
Maybe if I get him a hobby that he has to spend money on he would lighten up but ohh well what can I say I picked him :P
You can't get anyone a hobby. they have to be hobby types.. and if they are not they will less likely understand anyone who has one and enjoys that time doing it. Husbands upset about the money sometimes have good reason to be I have seen some quilters shop ;)>LOL.. some buy tons of fabric and store it for years.. if the family is not able to afford this he has the right to be upset.. so ... or if you are hiding your spendatures...as many woman do that makes for a rocky road as well. If all you are able to do is scrappy quilts because of not having fabric and he does not like scrappy that could just add to his disapproval of it all. I think making him something is a good idea too...also some husband are just not happy when their woman is not with them 24/ 7 ;( although I am fortunate not to have a husband like this I know several woman who have them ;(
There could be lots of things going on there.... if a few dollars cause a problem. Communication is always good.. if you enjoy this hobby you will be happier being able to do it and if you are happier and not feeling put into a box by his wishes he also will be happier ;). It could be a win win for everyone;)
I donate most of my work.. donating is tax deductable. :):)
I try to spend time with him when he is here and on weekends if he is busy or wanting to do other things he enjoys I am sewing at that time. That works out well:) but I always check back and touch base.. .come down have lunch with him... . I like my man ;)>. ...and want not to neglect him. During the week when he is at work I can sew all day if i so wish. I think it is about balance for everyone. as we can get obsessed with this fabulous hobby ! Just my humble opinion ;)>>