Originally Posted by martha jo
My husband has passed on now so I can do what I please but I hear him urging me on. He used to take me a quilt shop and encourage me to buy more and more. He got so caught up, he bought his own machine and started quilting. In his last years when he became too weak to go into the shop with me he would say "buy some for me too". He was too ill to do anything but he loved new fabric and loved to see me sew. I cared for him at home and sewed and sewed. He loved to watch so now on special occasions, I go to the quilt shop and splurge! I know he would want me to.
Like a few others here, DH and I have maintained separate accounts for years. When we were first married, he was in college, I was the one working - I tried to always make sure he had a little spending money (granted, it wasn't much - we didn't have much). A few years later, when first DD came along and I was the one w/out an income, he wasn't quite as generous as I had been. Don't get me wrong - he is a saver, and that has its positives, too! He also has NO clue what this hobby costs.
The reason I quoted your response, Martha Jo, was that I just wanted to say what a wonderful story it is. I'm so glad you had someone who encouraged you during the good times, that you were there for him in the bad, and I believe that he's encouraging you still.