bearisgray said....
What I thought was interesting - and I have not counted the responses in the threads to get an accurate number - is that the majority of responders seem to say "leave it, it's okay, I don't see anything wrong" and a minority encourage "fixing/changing" it.
So - my question/observation actually is: Why are the ones that encourage "fixing/changing" in the minority?
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Being in the minority that you are addressing, I will speak for myself on WHY I usually advocate for "fixing/changing" since :
1) I know I feel so much better after fixing something that's bothering me.
2) It doesn't usually take as long as I anticipated or spent dreading that it would.
.....so I like to encourage others to feel good about their work after they've done their best. I know if I ask "does this need to be fixed?" I know in my gut I believe it does. I'm getting better about not asking others since I already know what I'll do about it. I'll fix it. I've never regretted fixing something, only ignoring it. And no, I am not a perfectionist, don't claim to be. I only strive for excellence and improvement.
But why do I sometimes hesitate to say "fix it":
1) I don't know the sensitivity level of the asker. Making art is so personal that if a person's work is "critiqued" , the person herself feel criticized. That is usually a feeling stemming from childhood, not from a few months or years of quilting. I'd hate to squash someone's love for quilting by making a remark that is meant to help, but backfires.
2) Because I really do not care at all for the quilt they've made (which is rare, but does happen).
I agree that it it's in everyone's best interest that the asker says, "Please do" or "please do not" point out a mistake before I quilt this thing. I mean, I would HOPE they'd want someone to at least SAY, "I see such and such in the upper right hand corner. Did you intend that?" before it's too late. If NO one pointed out what appears to be a mistake (usually in block placement) , I tend to think they just scrolled on by my picture and aren't interested enough to comment. But that's me. If I don't want feedback, I'll just post the photo.
Last edited by zozee; 05-25-2017 at 09:11 AM.