Now I am not a fashionista, so I may not be the best person to listen to, but I would go with whichever one you like best. And if that doesn't work, go with the one that will best match the rest of your jewellery.
Also, for what it's worth, I kind of *like* the idea of my wedding band looking dated (or at least not brand-spanking-new). To me that indicates the marriage is long-lasting, which is kinda what I'm aiming for (not the only thing, but you know what I mean!). I suppose you could always claim "vintage", which is *very* 'in' right now!!
But yeah, basically what cashs_mom said.