I honestly don't understand competition and "showing" for quilts, particularly at a fair. It doesn't add to my happiness in my work to have a ribbon given it, and it doesn't detract for my satisfaction with my work to see someone else ranked better. So, to me, competition in something I do strictly for fun, makes no sense.
That said, I'm sorry you're disappointed with your fair experience. What would you have wanted to have happen to have felt that it was worth the effort of entering? In other words, what was your most favorable expectation?