How about just letting grand-daughter know that you are willing to do "whatever" - but that she has to * ask* you for whatever.
How else is she going to learn what-all is involved?
I think it would be much easier to buy nice paper/plastic plates and disposable tableware - (if you are frugal, you can wash it and use it again!)
I do understand how hard it is to "let go" - but - surprise! surprise! - my female relatives are able to do this as well - or better! - than I was able to.
Last edited by bearisgray; 11-19-2017 at 09:43 AM.