DH learned real fast his expectations of what a wife should do like his mom was not even on my list of being wifey. I worked the same hours as DH so I didn't come home and cook a meal. When the kids got old enough they had to prepare dinner every night. They sure liked the nice things our jobs provided so it was expected for them to earn them. I never cook breakfast or lunch for anyone over the age of 8 unless someone is sick.
When I decided to stop working and stay home I didn't mind having DH a dinner prepared most nights when he came home from work. Now that he is retired we are even again so I don't cook unless I want to.