It's a great quilt that you have every right to be proud of. Lots of work went into it. Your thought of sending extra fabric isn't necessarily strange, but I do wonder if the family would keep track of it and what it does to (down the road a few year might get forgotten?) . ANd would they know how to repair it or would they send it back to you for repair? Would they feel too badly if kids and/or pets damaged it so that you COULD repair it? Just thinking of possible scenarious. I probably would just send washing instructions, and let it go at that. If it's been unloved, as you say while being the maker, will you want to see it again?