I say do what your heart wants to do! Weddings, showers etc sometimes seem to be a cash grab. I know times have changed. Back in my day there was no registering for wants/needs. We were very appreciative of all gifts we got, and I could probably name at least 20 things we got. (Approaching 43 years). I still have the afghan a co-worker gave us. Any gift given in love should be appreciated!