I think this is a hard call. I like to ask the couple (usually the gal) about colors. I am always happy when I see it used but I don't worry about it. I have had one DIL say she is afraid of it. It goes along with the rest of her attitude. My son loves it even though it resides on the closet shelf. I am a believer that the gift is the choice of the giver rather than the demand of the receiver. I cherish the handmade things I have received over the years-some are tatters,