It takes me a long time to get something made.
If I think the recipients would prefer something other than a quilt - that is what they will get.
I am not in the group that believes in giving (things I consider to be) treasures to the unappreciative.
Yes, I do care about what happens to the quilts I make after they leave my custody. I have a lot of money, time, effort, and thought invested in them.
Yes - I have heard about that what a recipient does with a gift if up to him/her.
I think it is up to me to be aware of what my feelings might be if something I have toiled over will not be appreciated.