For my nephews (2 yrs apart in age) I went the "same but different" route. I keyed on their favorite colors (red vs blue), used some prints the same in both, and some prints different. I loved that I found the "flames" in red and blue as well. The quilts are a disappearing nine patch but because I used so many different prints it came out quirky. But I loved them and call them Chaos Contained. I figured it was appropriate for 2 pre-teens.
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