Oh, my! So many familiar sayings from my mother and grandmother. My mom used the 'you can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar" meaning if you want something be nice to the person rather than being mean to them and you're more likely get it. However, I never saw my mom do a lot of that. My grandmother said "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all" and she really live that. I never heard her say an unkind word about anyone. Even when they pretty much deserved it.