After reading your description of the family, I could only go with #1. To me it signifies that each is an individual, but they all come together and celebrate being a part of the whole, and yet remain as individuals. I guess I may be a bit emotional today, because the first design actually brought tears to my eyes since you told us the meaning of why you are making this quilt. The second one is nice but it just doesn't speak to me. It doesn't tell the story. I think you should include their story on a label on the back of the quilt so they will understand the why of the design and the celebration involved.