What I really would like for Christmas would be for my daughter and SIL to get over being mad at me and let me see and spend time with my granddaughter. She's been weaponized, unfortunately. Makes me sad as I can be.
Parents who use children to get back at family members are loathsome. It's not fair to the child and I think a horrible kind of mental abuse. Seems you SIL would have the decency to speak up about this but he is either scared of his wife or just as hateful as her. I can only imagine what the child is learning from all this. I know it hurts you to the core.