Thanks for the feedback!
1: Yes, we all have preferred sleeping arrangements, this was not a judgement on their arrangement or anyone else’s. When I was married I would have preferred separate rooms as he was a extreme snorer, so by all means do what is best for you!
2: Yes, I felt her actions were rude in claiming the quilt as her own. And, rather ballsy to ask about a quilt for him because she decided she won’t share with him despite it being a gift for them, NOT just her. Yes, she did imply hiring, but I don’t think she was aware of how long it takes to make a quilt, and is certainly not aware of cost of supplies, especially today.
3: I am going to go ahead and make him his own quilt, in his colors and I will do the same size. I would not feel right making him a lesser quilt. They are hoping to sell their home this year so perhaps he will get his own room with a bed he can use and display his own quilt. I contemplated a different pattern, but am afraid she may claim that one too saying she liked it better!
Thank you all for your feedback and thoughts, it’s nice to have a place to get feedback for Quilty Issues. At the end of the day I am thankful that my quilt's are appreciated and I know that this next one will also be appreciated and used.