Originally Posted by
tallchick
Thanks for the feedback!
1: Yes, we all have preferred sleeping arrangements, this was not a judgement on their arrangement or anyone else’s. When I was married I would have preferred separate rooms as he was a extreme snorer, so by all means do what is best for you!
2: Yes, I felt her actions were rude in claiming the quilt as her own. And, rather ballsy to ask about a quilt for him because she decided she won’t share with him despite it being a gift for them, NOT just her. Yes, she did imply hiring, but I don’t think she was aware of how long it takes to make a quilt, and is certainly not aware of cost of supplies, especially today.
3: I am going to go ahead and make him his own quilt, in his colors and I will do the same size. I would not feel right making him a lesser quilt. They are hoping to sell their home this year so perhaps he will get his own room with a bed he can use and display his own quilt. I contemplated a different pattern, but am afraid she may claim that one too saying she liked it better!
Thank you all for your feedback and thoughts, it’s nice to have a place to get feedback for Quilty Issues. At the end of the day I am thankful that my quilt's are appreciated and I know that this next one will also be appreciated and used.
I agree that she probably had no clue how much time/money/effort goes into making a quilt, and didn’t think it was a big deal to imply that you could just whip another one up for her husband.
Once that started to become clear to her, she realised it was an unreasonable ask, and backed down.
It’s very nice of you to think of making another, but you could save it until next Chrismas, and it can be presented as ‘another’ quilt; not just a quilt for him.
As DH and I have gotten older, his snoring has gotten much worse, and my hearing more sensitive. A bad combination to be sure, and one that has me often going to sleep in my own bed, but waking in the spare room!