Originally Posted by
Macybaby
I've run into people thinking I was being selfish for grabbing something for myself, but they don't know how rare it is for me to do that. I was raised that Mom/Wife got the last. DH and I got married at 18 and had kids right away, and money was very tight while they were growing up, so I got use to going without, and making sure that DH and kids had the best of whatever it was that we got.
So for the few times I grab first and hang on tight, DH will often look disappointed and others look on me poorly, but DH is only doing it because he's use to getting first dibs. He does admit that he's rather spoiled when it comes down to it.
That does happen, Macy. Women will sometimes let everyone else have things first and do with what's left. Everyone gets used to it so when they finally decide to take something for themselves, others judge them harshly. Its okay to put yourself first. Nothing wrong with that.
Also, my husband sleeps on the couch because he prefers it. He likes to sleep with the TV on all night which I cannot do. He's always slept on the couch a lot of the time. His choice and not anyone's business except ours.