I just went yesterday and put flowers on my mothers grave and some on her sisters and mom and dads..it has been awhile since I had been, cause it's about an hour and half from where I live...don't get to the country often...my Dh and I have our marker, he's been gone almost 4 years now,,but I didn't put vases cause I knew I wouldn't get up there very often..he's not there anyway...the cemetery is well kept and quiet there in the country..we were married 56 wonderful years and I miss him everyday..I live with my youngest daughter and husband..I sold our home and moved with her in their new home...I have my room, bath and my sewing room...which I love..it's all I need at my age...I will be 80 in August...still healthy and able to make my quilts and enjoy life..