A spouse is not suppose to come attached to the hip! I wouldn't be very happy if DH was up my butt every day all day. I plan trips every few months just for me. I go to quilt shows or just a weekend get away to sight see or window shop. DH hates to travel so he rarely says I'll go with you and I do ask him if he would like to come, knowing the answer is no if I'm going to a quilt show. He goes on hunting trips and has his woodworking hobby. We are perfectly matched. We love our independence and love each other.