My opinion is when a quilt becomes the property of someone else it is theirs to love or hang or put in a closet. My DILs apologize for using quilts gifted to them and I tell them it's theirs do with it what you want. Agree maybe if she knew how much he paid for it she might change her mind but she loves it and it makes her happy and he gave it to her to replace one that was on the bed with dogs on it.