A few months ago I found a list of items for sale by website participants (quilting blog). I found several reasonably priced books/ patterns and placed my order by private email to the seller. We agreed on the total price, I sent her a check ($30.00). She received my check and cashed it, but I did not receive my merchandise. She seemed distraught and remorseful that I hadn't received it, checked with me several times, but never offered to refund my money. I did not ask for reimbursement either. I feel that it was my responsibility to send payment, and hers was to provide the merchandise. I am not going to pursue the issue, but am curious as to how some of you might have handled a situation like this?