Lisanne

I'm just wondering about this. I'm reading a book, The Brain that Changed Itself, and one part talks about a neurochemical that causes the brain to stop caring so much about the person or people you're caring about and start caring more for others (either new people in your life or others who are around).

And it got me thinking that if they could put this in pill form, it could help people get over the deaths of loved ones or relationships that broke up, and move on with life.

And then I wondered whether people would want to use it, or whether they'd want to go through the grieving.

So, if a pill were available to help with grieving for the loss of a parent, spouse, child, sibling, close friend, even a pet, would you want to take it?

Sadiemae

I wouldn't take a pill. I lost my My Mom, my husband, my beloved Chesepeake Bay Retriever(15 years old), and both cats(about 20 years old) all in the span of 6 years. This has been very difficult for me, but you have to deal with your grief sometime. Why put it off? You couldn't take the medicine forever. I did take Ambien after my Mom and husband died because I couldn't eat or sleep. Just my thoughts.

Lisanne

"Just your thoughts" are exactly what I want to hear about.

By the way, the chemical creates lasting changes in the brain, so it's not something that would wear off once you stop taking it. (I'm not saying this to advocate for it, just to clarify the very good point you brought up.)

sharon b

My Thoughts.... people need to learn to cope . Yes sometimes you do need help , but too often a pill is given and nothing more . I would not take this pill.

sew_southern

I wouldn't, I got through my sons death through lots & lots of prayer. My husband on the other hand would take a pill if it cured grief! But everyone has to do what's right for them, not what someone else tells them is right. And grieve in their own time, whether it's 6 months or a couple years.

amma

I think you need to go throught the grieving process, it is painful...but there is a reason we need to work through all of the emotions.
If someone is having long term problems with this and needs some help, either pills and/or counseling, there is nothing wrong with that either.

mrsdralshhadeh

well,, I do not think I would take a pill for that,, after coming home from Iraq, and being told I have PTSD (post traumatic stress syndrome) and was told to take certain meds for it,, I said no,, we are giving the emotion from our higher power for a reason. I have lost many people who were dear to me,, had bad things happene to me in life,,, but,, it is life,, the good with the bad,, and the pretty with the ugly,, so,,I guess for me,, I feel not for me,,,

Pam

I would not take it, but if someone else wanted to, that would be fine with me. What is right and normal for some is not always a good thing for others.

sally's girl

I would not take a pill for grieving. Death is part of life and grieving the loss of a loved one or pet is part of life also. We would be robots without feelings. also, what are the side effects of the pill?

julie

Although there were times after the deaths of my brothers and my niece, I wished I could find something to block out all the sorrow and grief, I believe that is not the best way to handle loss. I worked through these tragedies with perserverance, and the love of my surviving family. I can't say that prayer helped me, b/c I still don't know why they were taken. I have just accepted that it is this way.