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    Super Member maryb119's Avatar
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    I quit my job!!!!!! My office manager was a mean, nasty woman who blamed me for any mistakes made, even when I could prove they were HERS!!! It was always my fault. I would come home each night miserable and my DH said just quit! I stuck to it because I am so used to working and jobs are few and far between in our area but it's not worth my marriage and my health to be under so much stress. I quit yesterday. She was extra nasty to me in front of my co-workers and I left for lunch to calm down. When I came back, my co-workers were looking at me and whispering....it was the last straw. I laid my key on her desk and said I quit. She looked at me full of hate and said "Thank you!" The only thing I feel is relief!!!!

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    Sounds like you did the right thing. No job is worth that kind of treatment. Now, let it go and move forward! :thumbup: :D

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    Good for you, I'm sure you'll feel much better knowing you don't have to go there everyday.

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    AW, HUGS! I dont blame you, sounds horrid. I hope you find a place who appreciates you. You could have sung the song, "Take this job and shove it", lol!

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    Sounds like a hateful woman, and I don't know how long you've put up with it, but I think you did the right thing, it's not worth the stress on your body and your marriage.

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    Good for you! You had the backbone to do what so many of us wish we had done over the years. :thumbup:

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    Good for you!!!!

    Check your blood pressure. It is probably going down!!! No job is worth your health!

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    And just think, with you gone, she will have to find a new target! Watch out, all of you whisperers......

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    You're right -- your health and marriage aren't worth it. My health went to he$$ in a handbasket because of a boss from he$$. Good luck!

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    Good Job! That treatment is not worth a million dollars!

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    Been there, done that many years ago... which is why I was so reluctant to find work after being at home for so long. I just couldn't put up with crap like that now.

    Life is too short for crap like hers... and what goes around comes around. I figure god will get her sooner or later!

    Now, rest, destress and quilt to your hearts content. By the sounds of it you deserve it!

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    Thank you for standing up for yourself! I always wonder about a person who treats others badly when they are in a position of power. What do her superiors think about her work. It doesn't sound like a nice place to work, and yes, someone ese will now have to take the "stuff" she was dishing to you. How big an office was it, and was it a local mom and pop kind of place, or a larger branch of somehting else.
    I had difficult co workers, but am retired now, and my health is much better.

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    Now you can find employment where you are appreciated for your hard work and you can enjoy working. It was a hard step to take, but likely one that will improve your life in so many ways.

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    sometimes the best thing is to leave. Your health and well being
    is totally more important. Even working in a lower position is good to keep you in fabric spending Money. Others may follow your lead, and you may have inspired others good luck.
    I am showing this to my DD, who has a similar boss. Although she is single she has bills, an apartment, and car paymnts so she is reluctant to leave. She also loves her job Helping troubled families and kids, She is passionate and caring. her goal is to remain there till spring, then look for another job pprobably in another state, boo hoo. Someday these bosses will get their just due.

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    I'm happy for you. She definitely had a problem and wanted to take it out on you. I agree with the earlier remark that someone made...watch out whisperers. You're next.

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    Sadly, all too many jobs seem to be like that these days, but that still doesn't make them worth it. There is nothing much worse than having to go in every day to a job you hate. Hopefully, you will be able to find something you enjoy pretty quickly.

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    Don't you just dislike rude people!! Good for you and I hope you get a better job.

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    Hopefully you can find another job asap. If not there is a bright side - you'd have more time for quilting...

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    I worked with a lady just like that...For years one of the other ladies was her target, then she turned on me. Everything that went wrong was my fault. It made me a nervous wreck. After I left that job she found another scapegoat. What burned me up was that our boss wouldn't stand up to her.

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    You are so right, mama's place! It is a small business and I went to the boss telling him about it several times and I was told to be nice to her anyway. I just couldn't do it any more. When she yelled at me in front of my co-workers, I let her have it right back. We both were at our desks crying and I left for lunch to calm down. She even blamed me for things that happened when I was on vacation!!!! I sure feel better today that I quit. Life is too short to put up with that. I had been there 4 years and it was a long 4 years. Thanks you all for your support! This is such a great group of people on this board. I am looking forward to time quilting.

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    I am so sorry that you had to endure this type of treatment! It is awful. I also had the same type thing happen 4 yrs ago. I made myself a vow that I wold be there 1 day longer than the old witch. I was. Then I went ahead & quit. My coworkers had heard & seen enough that I did not want to be there any longer. I think you will feel much better now. I know I did & do. :thumbup: No amt. of pay is worth being abused. So I am proud of your decision. Now think of all the wonderful quilty things you can do. And do them happily. :wink:

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    Good Luck to you .... now breath !! :)

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    Yay!! good for you, Nothing is worth THAT aggravation.. Karma is a B.... what goes around comes around..

    Then you have wonder, what miserable thing is goin on in her life that she needs to make other lives so miserable too..

    Good for you so sad for her...

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    What is the deal with bosses like that? I must be very blessed to have pretty dang nice bosses. They have quirks, but then again, I am loaded with quirks, so we do just fine. We are a large department and the stress is huge at times, but it is fun to go to work, and we feel appreciated for our work.
    Sometimes I think that insecure people who gain management positions are the worst supervisors. It's like they project all their shortcomings onto everyone who works for them. And then you're in danger of making your eyes stuck in the back of your head from rolling them so much... and then your mother would have been right :):)

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    So glad you had the strength to say 'stick it' otherwise it would have made you ill, good for you sticking up for yourself, there are too may bullies in position of power and it goes to their heads, it's a sign of weakness really, they make you look bad to make themsleves look good. My husband had a nevous breakdown some years ago, through the same kind of thing really, and was off work for a couple of years, but shortly after he left the job we heard that his tyrant of a boss had a heart attack, God is watching and knows what goes on, thankfully my husband is now fully recovered and running his own company, don't ever give up hope, have some time off and a rest and you will be ready to get back into work again.
    God Bless, enjoy your life don't let others spoil it. :)

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