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    My youngest daughter is getting married in September. I am doing the planning and florals not only because I am mom but because it is my business. She has made a request that I need some advice on. I hope you ladies can help.

    She bought her gown online and it is absolutely beautiful and fits like a glove. It is halter style jersey knit and reminds me of a greek goddess. Very simple design. Her loving... and I say this ready to cuff him... said at a wedding yesterday that he hopes her gown is one of those beautiful beaded ones. You know the over the top, weigh a ton ones. Now she is worried that he won't think hers is beautiful! It has a plain satin waistband and I want to embellish it with a strip of beaded lace. I would appreciate any thoughts on this. I don't want to do too much to it. Afraid that it would take away from the gown's simple beauty.

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    Beautiful dress, I just embellished a dress that I wore for my sons wedding. I got the iron on jewels and did it along the neckline and waist it was so pretty. Just hand sew or fuse on what she likes. He will think she is beautiful no matter what the dress is!!

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    I would leave it totally up to your daughter; no matter what anyone else says. It's her day and she found the dress. I think any man who sees his bride walk down the isle and really loves her will think no matter what she has on that she's the prettiest thing ever. She needs to be true to herself and her style

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    He might have thought it looked really great on the bride he saw, but each bride has her own style and she picked a dress to fit her style. If she wants to add something then by all means around the waist band would work.

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    have her tell fiancee those kinds of gowns are out, and if he would like beads he can have them put on his tux....lol.

    seriously, maybe he and she can look through some bride mags together and she can point out how styles have changed and the kind of gowns she likes.

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    Her wedding, her dress I like the simple elegant look.

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    I think the dress is lovely.

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    Remind the guy that it's the BRIDE'S day, the groom's night....
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    It's a beautiful dress...she's going to be gorgeous!

    You might also want to remind her that she doesn't want to lose her independance....EVER! It's totally possible to please her man without giving into his every whim...especially when it concerns the way she dresses or wears her hair...

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    Honestly sometimes I don't know where I found that girl! She is the one who worries whether someone else will like her choices and it is difficult to get her to understand that if it makes her happy it doesn't matter what others think! I know Ryan will think she is beautiful and that day the gown won't matter! I'm not giving Ryan any suggestions about his tux lol! He and her dad already have her thinking they will have velcro sleeves so they can tear them off!

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    I did wedding dress sewing as a business for a few years. You might tell your daughter that if she likes the way she feels in the dress, then it is the right dress. And that a bride is the woman wearing the dress, not the dress wearing the woman. I'm sure he will love her in her dress, because she feels lovely in it.
    That said, alittle bling is easy to do. It can be pearls, not just sparkles. Craft stores sell them as sew on, and there a variety of sizes to use. If she is wearing pearl necklace, then I would suggest pearls as additive on the dress to not distract the eye from her face. good Luck.

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    I just love the simple beauty of that dress. I have never been one for glitz and bling, and think the addition of some simple sparkle would be perfect. She will wear the dress and should be comfortable in it, so I say let her make the decision. When he sees her coming down the isle, I doubt he will even notice the dress.

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    Is she is in the dress, he will love it.

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    Will he wear a beaded suit to match, Porter Wagoner style?

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    her dress, her choice. IMHO

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    Not wanting to influence one way or the other (the dress is beautiful just as it is however) but if she decides she does want embellishment, Hancock Fabrics used to have a wonderful line of wedding beadwork pieces. This was when I worked for them back in '03 but I would think they should still carry the line. You might want to check and it would be several types and styles in one place to view and contemplate. Love the Porter Wagner comment earlier...maybe you could pick something up for the groom as well? lol

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    Classy, simple, elegant! That was my daughter's choice for her wedding last week. I would just add a few jewels at the bottom of the bodice. On the day of...her groom will think she is the most beautiful bride in the world...and,of course, she will be. Those 'over the top' dresses are lovely...but, it should be bride, not the dress, which catches everyone's attention.

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    An idea...make her a really glitz garter to wear under the dress (his to throw later!) A little hidden suprise!!

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    Your DD should tell him she loves he dress as it is and that's all he needs to know about it.

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    I would do a little at the waist and on the shoulder straps just to set it off

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nanamoms
    An idea...make her a really glitz garter to wear under the dress (his to throw later!) A little hidden suprise!!
    I like that!

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    Show him some "bling" for the groom's suit. Lots of over the top styles, have him and her look at them and pick one out for him, then remark that so he will stand out, the bride should be less "blinking" in the light!!!

    In other words, she should wear the gown she has already chosen.

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    Are you sure he wasn't being tongue-in-cheek with his remark? I think the dress is beautiful in its simplicity but a little beading on the waistband would not be over the top.

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    I would leave the dress as is. How about beading the veil. A beaded head piece would be pretty too. You don't have to go over board to have the beaded look. I have sewn wedding dresses for 40 years, and trust me the groom will have other things on his mind on the wedding day then a few beads. Have fun and relax.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jitkaau
    Are you sure he wasn't being tongue-in-cheek with his remark? I think the dress is beautiful in its simplicity but a little beading on the waistband would not be over the top.
    It seems like he must know his bride's personality by this time and maybe it was tongue in cheek - a tease?

    However, if it was NOT a tease - this could be a serious clue to "his personality" and she needs to look for other hints of controlling, manipulative or narcissistic personality clues. If she is a "pleaser" then she is probably vulnerable to being controlled. Now is the time to check these things out.

    Hate to sound negative or alarmist, but "been there done that" and burned the tee-shirt.

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    When my daughter married, she bought a sample dress that had a pull in the fabric. We "hid" it by sewing single pearls scattered over the neckline. It added a touch of elegance without distracting from the simple design. Leave it to your daughter though, after all, it is her day.

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