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Thread: Meals for Elderly Father

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    As a caregiver for my mom who is 90 I found out that the older she got the less she cared about food. Only dinner she would eat would be the meal she ate with us. It's almost another full time job caring for elders and it became much easier when she moved in with us.

    Yes, we changed our lifestyle drastically and yes we had children to care for, too.

    We tried home delivered meals and they were terrible. Goofed up the order. It as a mess.

    There is NO easy answer when caring for elderly. Believe me. We looked.

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    Yes Angel food ministries was what I was going to suggest. Also is there a neighbor close by that you could hire once a week?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Grambi
    I really don't have any different ideas for meals but I do have a suggestion/warning for you. I was makig and freezing meals for my MIL in addition to buying her the soups and other canned food that she liked. It took me awhile to figure out that she was no longer able to figure out the microwave and was putting the food out for feral cats that roamed around her house. When I was cleaning out her house after she went into an assisted living situation, I found 5 pans that she had burned food to a black crisp in and tossed under the kitchen sink. So try to assess how he is doing with those kinds of task as he continues to age. Good luck in your search.
    Thanks for the tip, my dad mostly heats things in the microwave as he too has a tendency to "forget" that he has something on the stove. The only thing he heats on the stove is oatmeal on occasion and then he has to stand there and stir it constantly. Lately he has gone to just eating cold cereal. :P

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    Contact your local services for the aged..In Ohio its your local council on aging. They have a bunch of resources they can refer you to so you get the help both of you need!! Maybe a local place where he can take himself for dinner..and the company of others his age. He may eat better if its a social setting. But eventually you will need the help of others sometimes so you don't burn out, and there's nothing wrong with it. Its hard to look after our parents, and hard for them to be looked after. I wish you strength for the journey.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mommaB
    Contact your local services for the aged..In Ohio its your local council on aging. They have a bunch of resources they can refer you to so you get the help both of you need!! Maybe a local place where he can take himself for dinner..and the company of others his age. He may eat better if its a social setting. But eventually you will need the help of others sometimes so you don't burn out, and there's nothing wrong with it. Its hard to look after our parents, and hard for them to be looked after. I wish you strength for the journey.
    Well said. :thumbup:

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    Quote Originally Posted by ptquilts
    I am just curious, what would he do on his own? Would he not eat, or eat junk food?
    It sounds like he is in pretty good shape mentally if he is still driving. Does he do his own shopping?
    Actually, he would just go out to eat. He does his own shopping now that my mom has passed, but he still does not cook.

    We were out today buying some frozen meals for him (that I had coupons for) and he pointed to a sit-down burger joint (I think it was called Diamond burgers) and he said "don't get a burger there - it was $11 for a burger and fries". Before my Mom passed, they NEVER went out to eat.

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    :lol: So this in an update on the situation ... thanks to everyone who commented and offered suggestions!

    We contacted the local Senior center, and they have a weekday meal program where they serve lunch and ask for a $5 donation. Warm, homecooked meal and lots of interaction. "Lots of old people there" he told me :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: "Dad, you're old too! You're 84!" I told him....."No, older than that"! :lol: :lol: :lol: My father does not think he is old...he will probobly live to be over 100 years old.

    Then I checked the grocery ads for sales on frozen meals. Smart Ones (by Weight Watchers) and Healthy Choice were on sale and had alot of options that had a sodium content of between 500 - 700 Mg sodium per serving/box. I paired those with coupons that I had, so he got 20 meals for an average of less than $2.00 a meal. Then I found out that Walmart has the same selection and cheaper than the grocery stores sale ads! :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup:

    So, he is set for 20 days...and we will see how that works for him. Lasagna, chicken parmegan, meatloaf, salsbury steak, swedish meatballs, oriental chicken, and others. Hopefully they are tasty enough and satisfying.

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    Sounds like a great solution! Will be interested to hear how this works out longer term! My brother goes to a senior center for lunch every day and has made lots of friends there.

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    it's great to hear about a senior being able to stay in his own home and enjoy life. Tell him from me, Rock On!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by ptquilts
    it's great to hear about a senior being able to stay in his own home and enjoy life. Tell him from me, Rock On!!
    :thumbup:

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    Latest update.

    The Smart Ones and Healthy Choice were not "substantial" enough and he had to have 2 in order to feel full. Not a good option!

    Senior center works great for lunchtime meals. He goes there 3-4 times a week, gets a great homecooked meal and gets to socialize.

    We brought over one of our older freezers to store meals and I cook all day to make meals for him. Week before last I made 64 meals and filled up both of his freezers. He has a variety of 4 or 5 different meals which are quick and easy for me to mass produce.

    Taco soup, spaghetti with meat sauce, chili with chicken, vegetable beef soup. I also grill a large package of hamburger patties and turkey burgers. Then put 4 or so in a freezer ziplock bag that he can take out and reheat for a burger.

    He has requested lasagna for next time, so I have been looking for recipes that I think would be tasty to add to the mix.

    My sister also has him over to dinner every Sunday and sends leftovers with him.

    He has learned to make scrambled eggs and sautes zucchini or yellow squash to add in.

    Very interesting discovery this has been, too bad there are not more healthy choices for the seniors.

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    glad to hear everything is going well!!

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