Onebyone

My grandmother's china set, my adult kids do not want it, my nieces did not want it, I am the one keeping it in the cabinet and we never use it. What do you do with stuff like that? It will be tossed if something happens to me so why am I hanging on to it? Just too much stuff that never gets used.

QUILTNMO

i did the same thing such a nice feeling!

Jannie

Why not use them for special occasions. None of my married children wanted china when they got married. They still do not have china and they are approaching the 30 year mark. My mom had dishes that dated back to the late 1800's. She has each grandchild's name on a dish. I will give each their assigned dish and will not ask what they do it. I think one will keep it & pass it down, one might not even get it home before it is tossed, and I'm not sure what the third one will do. This younger generation just doesn't seem to need to hang on to the past.

quiltingcandy

My mom's side of the family has a lot of family silver, furniture, etc that dated back to the 1600's on a couple of items. My grandmother and my mother gave most of it to the person that they wanted to give it to before they passed. I had the responsibility of doing a lot of sorting at my mom's house after she passed away. Basically told everyone that if they wanted something specific to say so, otherwise it would be sold or given away. We didn't have any arguments and that was nice. For my own children I have said the same thing. I am trying to clear out a lot of crap (I am 59) but they will deal with the rest of it because I want to enjoy what I have now and not worry about what they don't want to deal with when I am gone.

I do keep them informed what has some value and what does not. My youngest daughter loves the "family" items" but my other daughter doesn't care at all.

After all - when I am gone it won't matter.