You definately did the right thing. A life lesson learned early>

Amen to that Auntiehenno,My son and his wife keep a close eye and hand on their two girls. both spirited little 6 & 7yr.olds and They started their training early. They don't get away with much.They are taught to respect the teachers and grandparents the same as parents. When we went to Dinner at Red Lobster, and walking in My son started questioning them, (what type voice do we use?)the girls(inside voice) son (what type of activity?) girls(sitting at the table, no running around) so on.LOL had to laugh,they sounded like it was a regular drill each time they went out to eat. but it works and we all had a nice dinner,even the people at the next table.

You have a smart son and daughter-in-law. We have four kids and when we hired a babysitter to go out to dinner or a movie it always irritated me when other people's children disturbed our time. I don't know why parents think it's okay for their kids to run around the restaurant or movie.

Also, our youngest child is handicapped..even with his disabilities he is better behaved than most children.

I just got a text today from my 20 year old son saying he finally understood. He had a tough time in high school with bullying. He is now serving in the Air Force and planning out his future. His "friends" are still living at home, most with children of their own, no plans for education, etc. Makes you feel pretty good as a parent.

This is my second comment on this topic, but I think everyone agrees that discipline and values are important. Important enough to sometimes step on toes, even if those toes are related to you.

I agree whole heartedly with this response!! I was a school secretary for 30 years. Believe me.....kids NEED to know and be TAUGHT there ARE consequences for their actions (good and bad). Better for them to learn the concept while it is a toy and not someone's health or worse their life.

I think it sounds pretty good, actually. You, at least, gave him some options and kids should learn that they shouldn't just tear up something belonging to someone else because they want to be MEAN!

Was it his parents who said this? If it was anyone else, ignore it. If it was his parents, sadly it will undermine your commendable efforts.

I think your approach was great (as long as you are sure he did it deliberately)

I think you did the right thing. It's sad that his parents didn't do something right away when it happened. My mom would've done the same thing. She has always treated her grandchildren like she did us and that meant not only showing them she loves them but discipline as well.

I think you did great.

Thank you for teaching your grandchild how to behave and there are consequences for his actions. If you are getting flack from the family, then shame on them. The parents of this child new better. You raised one of them. Thanks again. I thought I was the only one who sees children now a days getting away with anything and are entitled to do what they want. Bless you.