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athomenow 05-29-2014 07:01 AM

I guess when people say "fixed income" that means we don't have the opportunity to get any overtime pay or to get a raise or anything that used to come when we worked outside the home. We are retired, have a nice income but it is less than half of what it used to be. My husband drives a school bus for extra money but of course you can't make too much or SS will take some back. Too bad that what we worked for isn't always what you get. It's a way of explaining to people that you don't have the discretionary money you used to have.

RobertaMarie 05-29-2014 02:43 PM

I don't get upset with cliches, etc. I ignore what I don't use or like. However, here is a cliche in reverse. Not too long ago, two beautiful ladies from my guild came to my house and reorganized my sewing room for me. They worked from nine in the morning to four-thirty in the afternoon, with only a brief break for lunch. They really made a difference in my room, since I had not cleaned it or put stuff away for two years, due to a disability and post open heart recovery. I really appreciated the help, and offered to pay for their time, and they graciously said: This is from your times past of paying it forward for others. And I felt very humble and thankful for these sweet ladies. I can now move around in my sewing room, and my cleaning lady can even vacuum the floors now! So, no, I don't get upset with cliches. Sometimes they fit, and I am just not letting small things ruffle my feathers as I age. Thanks again to Maureen and Nancy for the loving care they extended to me. I know they do that a lot. God bless to those who can and do, from those who can't but would. Roberta Marie

LavenderBlue 05-29-2014 02:53 PM

I am so tired of "at the end of the day".........and "going forward". LOL

RN-Quilter 05-29-2014 03:11 PM


Originally Posted by Sandygirl (Post 6735652)
I am so tired of hearing "pay it forward" and "give back". (I did not "take" anything). I understand what they are advocating (volunteering, sharing, etc) but still, there has to be a better way to express it. Is it me?

sandy

Sandgirl, maybe its because people are using the term to impress others with "how much" they are giving back or paying it forward?

lots2do 05-29-2014 03:30 PM

The one that bugs me is 'random' acts of kindness, I would rather call it a conscious act of kindness or even a regular act of kindness.

lots2do 05-29-2014 03:35 PM

Speaking of that, I need some feedback on something I'd like to do for someone who used to be a bigger part of my life when we worked together. I bumped into her today and she was filling me in on some hard times she's been having, all the while cheerful with a great attitude. Times are hard but they are doing what they can to meet their obligations. I'd love to get her a gift certificate to a restaurant they like. Would it be kind ( which is my intention) or would it embarrass her?

quiltingcandy 05-29-2014 04:41 PM

My pet peeve is "from the get go." What is wrong with the word "begin" and its variations?
And I have to admit, when I hear the cliche "pay it forward" means someone is expecting something in return. There was a series of books about it for a while. My husband thought they were wonderful, because giving aways always brought good things back. I finally asked if he ever did anything that he didn't expect something in return? It wasn't in any of the books I read.

And for the friend rather than a gift card to a restaurant - it would depend on the presentation. Is her birthday soon? Can you just send it to her anonymously?

Sandygirl 05-29-2014 05:39 PM

I am not saying that we should not give of ourselves, we certainly should. I just hate the cliches to describe the action.

Sandy

moonrise 05-29-2014 06:01 PM

The only ones I can think of offhand are "baby bump", and when they combine a celebrity couple's name, such as Brangelina or Kimye. Ugh. :thumbdown:

Grace creates 05-29-2014 06:10 PM

It is not only things of monetary value to pay it forward or pass on to another, smiles, a kind word and the list goes on.


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