Perhaps the two of you can come to a compromise. He could accompany you and the two of you could meet your online friends, in a very public setting.

Chaska Quilter and I met on the Board, and we live about 5 miles apart. We met at a Senior Center, had coffee and talked for about an hour. We exchanged Names and phone numbers and have been friends ever since. We have been to a meet and greet, and a quilt show together and periodically have lunch and "show and tell" It was fun meeting someone older and just relax and talk and also share questions and answers about our mutual hobby.

I would love to meet some other quilters/embroidery. I'm on my own here and go to classes by myself and figure things out on my own, etc. My daughter is doing a little but it would be nice meeting others. If I ever make it back home WV, I'm supposed to get in touch with someone on here but it'll be after winter when I go up and couldn't make it this yr. I can understand how some are skiddish about meeting others they don't know. You don't know if what they are saying is true or not. My sister has went thru that twice. The first turned out to be a person in a "gang, group" from overseas posing as US military men, thankfully she figured it out in the beginning and didn't send him any money and then she just met a guy from MA and also had a bad experience; he wasn't who he said he was as far as personality. I don't think I have the nerve to meet someone from an online dating like alot that I know do. But another quilter, I'd be ready.

When we travel I usually arrange through the message board to met a quilter that lives near where we will be staying. My DH always accompanies me to where we meet, no home visits or dark and empty streets, just a bright and lively quilt shop. It's nice to put a face to someone you've 'talked to' on the message board.

I noticed that the assumptions have been that it's someone from the QB ... perhaps not!
Not that, that makes a big difference in the meet-up reasons pro and con.

Safety is always an issue. Privacy needs to be respected.
The other person has given you her reasons and that needs to be appreciated and respected.
Perhaps with time, she may change her mind. Perhaps not.

I have met a few QB members ... though only after getting to know them somewhat here.
I probably would not have agreed to meet them, if they'd only posted 14 times (as is your case).
Yes indeed, I would be hesitant to meet up.

Another thing ... I hesitate to say it ... though it could be a factor ... your screen name of MissusFear, may be cause for reluctance to meet.

I'd be okay with it, if it happened by accident. I would join the guild if I wanted to be around other quilters.

This may have been legit as well as all responses on here; but this is the Internet. People join different groups all the time (remember Craigslist in the news?) with the intent of not joining for the reasons and basis of the groups, but as stalkers and whatnot. I would want firm solid proof I was meeting who I was. You just never know. I would not meet anyone unless I could do a background check. There are ways of doing this. Just saying....
Sad so many have had bad experiences. Not how the world should be, should it?

I don't understand the reference to posting 14 times QuiltE. You can say it, haha, get that all the time. My last name is Fear. I met another QB member, we met at the park. We had a lot of fun. Not a big deal. I respect the other person's privacy. Just had seen that she had met with other QB members and thought it might be fun. Was just looking for perspective. Clearly you perceive me as a threat for only posting 14 times and my last name is Fear. Please check again. That is my blog entry count.

good point and you have only been on the site for a few months...I have never met anyone on line and if I ever did I would bring the hubby and in a public place. Sadly the world is not always safe.

I ran into the nightmare from Hell on this board. I mentioned that I was interested in going to the quilt show in Lancater. I should've picked up the signals in the PM's.. but I'm a bit trusting.. Anyway, I drove, and she really had mental issues. I figured that we had a bit in common, as she is a nurse, and I am in family practice.. She was retired, and as we were driving, I kept thinking how was she able to get through nursing school.. Life goes on.. I am planning on getting together with two members for a trip to a fabric store, and lunch.. I can't wait.. I also went to the house of another member a couple of times, and could've sat, and talked with her, and her husband for hours. They are the most wonderful people. I look forward to taking them out to eat, and hang out with them.. I owe them.. She advertised that she had old quilting magazines that she was throwing out..