Back in the last 70's when Grandpa died and everyone was cleaning out the house, deviding things up, I never asked for anything and pleased at what was given me, BUT silently wishing like crazy I'd get grandmas old treadle. I'm upset but silent when my sister asks for it AND GETS IT. For years afterwards I kept hoping she'd ask if I wanted it since it was grandmas. Nope. Nothing. Since quilting I kept thinking about it til yesterday I emailed her at work and asked her if she'd be willing to give it to me. SHE GOT RID OF IT YEARS AGO! I swear my heart stopped right there. I was never asked....... :( Sorry. I just had to vent to someone who would KNOW the feelings. DH just says "well it was hers" GRRRR :x

I know how you feel. Sisters!!!!! You just have to love them.

I love mine but not real happy with her at the moment :roll:

Bev, my mother did the same thing with my grandma's machine. when I asked for it she told me it had been gone for years, and she never asked me. I was upset but I guess you will eventually get over it. Sorry about it.

Maria

i will get over it. it just kinda threw me for a loop for a bit

I certainly understand your anger. You would have thought she'd ask the members of the family if anyone wanted it.

yes, thats how i feel. but i guess i can't cry over spilt milk. :(

doesn't that teach us all a lesson, I was always like you, never asking for anything just hoping someone would read my mind and know that I secretly wanted something. I have to push myself to be a little more outspoken even though its against my nature (especially with my sister who could cut you to peices with her tongue) I have learned over the years to ask, it never hurts. You may not get what you want, but no one knows you want it unless you speak up!

Isn't this sort of stuff what the PDA section is for?

why are you always after me? its like your trying you best to push me out :?:

It's okay Bevanger.....I am glad you posted it here because I would have never seen it otherwise.

You just gave me the incentive to ask my uncle about my grandmother's treadle machine that is sitting at my other uncle's house. I don't think it has even been looked at in ages.

I haven't said anything about it for fear of world war 3 with the aunts but I am going to risk it now.

Thanks sweetie!

Thanks for reminding us to at least ask! Today! I am going to my mothers to get my grandmothers machine before someone else in the family claims it.

THANK YOU for understanding hun. I do hope you get yours :D

Thanks hun. I hope you get yours. I try not to think of all the times my grandma sat making clothes for my dad, the quilts for her family. BIG SIGH!

But you have those memories and they are forever! My grandma had her treadle converted to electric- so no pretty cabinet. She never used it after that. But I will get it and see what I can do with it. My mom just said yesterday that Grandma and Grandpa would have been married 100 years this month!

100 yrs? WOW!
Yeah I have TONS of memories. Mom said I took after my gma cuz she crocheted, knitted, hand embrouidered, sewed clothes, quilted etc. Only thing I can't get the hang of is knitting :oops: I have hand carved knitting needles my grandpa made and Grandma made my dad and his brothers & 1 sister things. My Aunt gave me them. I have them on my sewing room wall. :wink:

Maybe she remembers where she got rid of the machine. You may be able to track it down and buy it. It's worth a try. Maybe your sister thought since you didn't seem upset when she asked for it, you weren't interested. She's your sister you have a right to make her feel a little miserable over this! :wink:

I can't believe she did that!!!!!!!!!!! I understand you being furious. Nice guys finish last...perhaps we should stop being so nice and speak up for things that mean a lot to us - like grandma's treadle and all that sort of thing. Sorry this happened to you, our wonderful sweet Bev... :(

So sorry

this was ohhhh 78 maybe. its been yrs. since it was an antique and in good condition, i'm thinking she sold it. hubby says to just let it go. my sister is self centered.

Isn't this what the PDA section is for? Or should all 30 year old regrets be put in this section? Please clarify!

I know the feeling my grandmas had 2 Treadle machines and 1 cabinet from her mother and mother in law. I did not know until later that she had sold the cabinet and 1 machine for about $10 each. Bummer ehat was she thinking (RIP Grandma). So that iswhy ai am nit sure which treadle i have I do know It belonged to one of my great grandmas. I keep hoping it is the one I learned to sew on.
I know your feeling :( :shock:

Bev....so sorry this happened, but at least you do have those memories of her!

I swore after that, I WILL speak up if I want something. I just felt bad and didn't want to be greedy. Funny thing is ,she quit sewing and I'm still going head strong. Oh well life goes on.

thanks hun

PLEASE get off my case. I didn't do anything to you. If this upsets you, DON"T READ IT!

Gosh hun. I don't know. Oh well, I'm gonna ask my remaining uncle if MAYBE theres a pic somewhere. I'll enlarge it and put in my sewing room.

ohhhhh exactly. i'm over the shock..

So, what is PDA? What does it matter that it is on here? I don't understand.

I have a sister like that too, I know how you feel. Apparently she only wanted the machine for profit. :cry:

pda is personal diary area. not sure what the problem is. must be boredom?

Some ppl think antiques = Money. Its ok. Nothing I can do about it.

Moonpi - you are really being rude. Nobody on here is that way. You sure are though. This is about being a friend, and understanding a friend's feelings. Lighten up!

THANK YOU :D

((((((Bevanger)))))))) I totally can relate.. Although I did ask my Dad for the sewing machine and beautiful table it was in when Mom and Dad divorced, I wasn't given it. I sewed on my own machine, as sad as that machine was, but so longed for the machine that Dad got in the seperation of their things... years later I asked Dad one more time about that machine and table. He said he gave it to my brother... I was dumbfounded!! Just makes no sense to me why people do the things they do!..

How about going off to college and finding out that Mom had given away our treadle. "OH! you didn't really want that slow old thing!!!" I am buying you a nice new Singer. Years later, when power was out for days here in the northeast, HOW I wished for that old slow thing.
I was in withdrawal for days. Still gotta love em tho, they know not what they do....

me either hun. For yrs her & I sewed together. I always looked at it when I was at her house. I wanted it mainly for the memories. not so much it being a treadle.

exactly.... i'm hoping my uncle may have a picture. i emailed him, so fingers crossed

My dad did the very same thing when my grandmother died--I found out later that he actually took a load of my grandmother's treasures to the dump. That was years ago. I think it's sad that my father doesn't appreciate the connection between generations, and that's his loss. It's the same with your sister--how sad for her that she doesn't see the importance of connections.

It was easier for me when I looked at how sad it was for my father to be so lacking in compassion, rather than to feel sorry for myself--because no matter what, I know my grandmother loved me--and that's the most important thing anyway.

This same grandmother once told me, "The answer is already No if you don't ask." She was trying to tell me to go ahead and ask, because I was like you and wouldn't ask. I'm better now, but not nearly as open about it as my sister. :)

Please, Moonpi. As stated.....if this topic upsets you please refrain from reading it. Obviously it is important to a lot of us that have responded to this thread.

This thread is not so much about regrets as about where our Treadle machines, in our opinion which are heirlooms, end up because of thoughtless relatives.

It is about treadle sewing machines. We discuss sewing machines in the Main section. Yes, personal anecdotes emerge within the discussion but that is no reason to bury it in the PDA section.

We certainly don't need a separate section for discussing Treadle or any other kind of machine. We boast about how much we love our sewing machines and how many we have all the time in the Main section. This thread is no different from those.

Again, thanks Bevanger for bringing this topic up.

(Steps down from soapbox.)