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How does everyone feel about people you haven't seen in a long time just dropping in for a visit? I must be getting old and grumpy but I would like a call first.

I absolutely want a call first. I might need to prepare a snack or meal. How do they know we are okay or have other company. How do they know if we have other plans? That is to me rude to say the least. Barny

This is why I live way out , where you really have to call to make sure I am home it a long drive from anywhere not to find me home...

while I generally like to have visitors, announced or not, nowadays there is no reason for them not to call first.

Nope, doesn't bother me at all. Mind you, they run the risk of catching me in my sloppy's and looking like a train wreck, but hey, I am always happy to see a friendly face at my door. I love surprises and have always told my friends they are welcome at any time and drop on by!!! I think it is an especially nice surprise when it is someone I haven't seen in a long while. :D

I want that call also, and it makes me wonder why there Really visiting, bunnie has a friend who thinks he can just pop in at any time, funny how i'm often sick and go to bed and i stoped taking bunnie out to lunch with him.
so he has to do all the work.
its been a while since hes just droped in :) i think its working

I want a call and it better not be from the driveway. I'm one of those people that need lots of notice for anything. Can't stand to have anyone in the house if it's not clean and presentable. So come on over but call a day ahead!

I generally like people and am glad to share time with them. I don't usually judge folks by their housekeeping and I hope they feel the same. Maybe it's because I still have a kid and am used to having other folks in the house.

don't call ahead, then I would have to comb my hair, change clothes, pick up the clutter in the house, load the dishwasher, scrub the bathrooms, sweep all the floors and would be to tired to enjoy your company.

don't forget the great "housekeeping hint" posted here a while back - Keep 2 or 3 "Get Well' cards prominently displayed at all times, and your guests will forgive your sloppy house cleaning!

I like a call before having people just drop in especially if they are from out of town and like to do the same thing. I live in such a small town it is very common for people to just drop in for a min to visit or see my latest project. On the other hand my hubby thinks it is just fine to just drop in on people without a notice. I guess when they just drop in and my house is a mess they will have to excuse it.

I'd rather have a couple of hours notice so I can get myself together and get myself out of the quilt room.
When I'm at my daughters home all her husbands friends and family just stop by to visit with them. I think that is rude as I don't get to see my daughter and granddaughters very much.

Well I may be getting grumpy at this point in my life. I used to love people coming over announced or not, but now I prefer a little notice, I have so much to do I have to allot my time more now days.

my Husband would be like that, drop in on friends or relatives when we were traveling on vacation. no call unless it was 15 minutes ahead. i was so embarrassed. if anyone comes here without calling, they take us as we are. a mess!

I would appreciate a heads-up. The one that really frosted me was when our neighbors listed their house for sale. Mom worked during the day, and Dad's car was a mid-life crisis 2-seater, so when they got the call that a realtor was going to show the house, Dad would pack the daughter in his car and send the son to my house WITHOUT NOTICE and WITHOUT ASKING. That seemed to stop the day I had to take my son to soccer and left his son on his own doorstep.

I agree with Kat Sews -a surprise visit could also surprise the visitor And the look on their faces is priceless and if I brush my hair my little Clem thinks we're going bye-bye and it breaks his heart if its only for company

I would have to say it depends on who the unannounced drop-in is. I have friends who I adore and would welcome anytime, night or day, without hesitation. However, I had someone (two someones actually) ring my doorbell at 9p.m. on a Sunday to see me. I had neither seen nor heard from this person in over 8 years and the last time we had spoken, it was not great--I was annoyed and via the intercom in the building, I asked them to call me and I did not let them in. I never heard from them again. Oh well... it'd been years anyway and I really had not missed them in all those years...

I love my friends and family, but I expect a call to see if I'm here or if I have time for visitors or not.
I have always been this way since I've been on my own. I had no choice when I lived at home, but I do now.
I feel it is very rude to take someones time without asking. I never drop in on anyone and neither does my husband. I now live behind a locked gate about 3/10s a mile from my house, so It is good if you call as you might waste your time comming here. Please give me a call a few days ahead to make an apt and I'll do the same for you. :p

I don't like unannounced drop ins. I don't care if you are five minutes or five hours away, call first. It shows respect and is common courtesy. I live in a one way in one way out division so visitors aren't just passing by. My driveway is long so I can see who is coming before they get here.

i agree i woul;d like a phone call or a little notice I would never do that to someone guess was I was brought up

LOL I totally agree!!!

After reading these replies, I see I am really in the minority here, what with being happy to receive visitors without advanced notice. I guess I like knowing that my friends and family can stop by anytime and expect a warm welcome and a cup of coffee (even if I have to wash the cup first!). That being said, I don't expect that my friends are the same. The dropping in or calling first is one of those things I always make a point of asking people as I get to know them. I know exactly which of my friends I can drop in on and which I can't. I think respecting your friends and family is key to a healthy relationship. Growing up, my father would have a THROMBO if you showed up unannounced at his house - perhaps that is why I lean the other direction. I just love the idea that my home is a warm, open haven to all and that my friends will love me and understand if I tell them it is not a good time for a visit.

I agree with valleyquiltermo who said that it is rude to take someone's time without asking. I've had drop-ins who stayed way too long and ruined my plans for the whole day. And perhaps it is a flaw in my personality, but I feel very uncomfortable when folks drip in and my house is not clean and neat. I realize that THEY don't care, but "I" do....and I can't relax and enjoy their company. THEY don't care if their house is presentable....so they don't think others should care either. It all comes down to, "Different strikes for different folks!"

I've also been visiting a friend and someone else dropped in and took over the conversation.....and there I sat. Not much fun!

I really don't mind people dropping in to see me. I take it as a compliment that they want to see 'ME'. My house is filled with 3 dogs and a cat so it doesn't matter how clean I try to keep it, it is still 'hairy'. Pet toys are on the floor but the house is usually rather neat and clean. I am really grateful to have a person come over, I can always grab some lipstick to put on before they get in the house.

Hmm makes me rethink my dropping in on friends. I used to go to one friends house everytime I was in town but have seen her once since May when I decided it was a one way friendship. She promised to call me to tell me where she would be the day of my surgery but have not heard from her. Thank God for children!! I guess I will call or just pass them by. I welcome company any time IF you came to see me if you came to see my house well I guess I gave you something to talk about!! LOL

Oh My Gosh!! First time I had seen this! I love it. LOL

Me too, don't care for drop in company by anyone.

I've worked shift work for years. Please just don't drop in at my place....I may be asleep, unpresentable, or just plain sick and tired of people.

It's rather odd, but though I would never drop in on someone without calling, I don't mind at all when someone pops in on me. I love to have company,and my philosdophy is that if I can live in my mess 365 days a year, you can stand it for a few hours.
Actually maybe that is because my house is rarely very messy. A little cluttered with raising 3 grandkids, but never dirty. I love people, and would hate to miss seeing an old friend or family member, just because they weren't able to give me any advance notice. The only time it has ever been a problem is when they arrive, just as I'm headed out the door for something I can't get out of. I guess, "to each his own", but I'd sure hate to miss out on seeing someone for the last time, just because they felt they couldn't drop in because they hadn't called first.

Just stop on by any time. My house won't be any cleaner if you call first, it is what it is. If I'm having a bad fibro day, perhaps your visit will help distract me from it. You might have to make the coffee, but that's ok. If you call first, I'd probably beg off, but your visit would be good for me so come on over!

I love to have friends/neighbors/family drop in!! My friends never come with 'judgment' on how I or the house looks and I never do that to anyone. They don't "drop in" to stay over, but if the visit extends to a mealtime and I don't have much in the house we go out or do pizza. Just nice to be together! Sometimes, people are just in the area doing something else and I'm glad they have thought of me!

I want a call ,if not I don't answer my door!!!!

I used to die of embarrassment when my folks would 'go for a drive' and drop in on someone. My dad's excuse was that he didn't want the people to 'to to any trouble' just because we were stopping by. I thought it was rude.

Now, I welcome folks who drop in on me. My house is open to friends. if I have to leave for something I can't put off util later, I tell them how long we have to visit. otherwise, I put on the coffee or get out the wine, and we have a good chat.

I used to like a call so I could tidy up if needed, nowadays I accept that they have come to see me not how well I keep house. I must be getting old as I now think any visitors have to take me as they find me mess an all.

I'd like a call. I live in the mountains, and we are a mile up the dirt road. Snow is tough, mud is worse, noone just randomly comes by. thank goodness

i work 12 hour days at a high stress job. i have a hubby with parkinson's, who is not much good around the house (he never has been--lots worse since the parkinson's) i raised 3 kids, had a house full of pets, yard full of chickens, a house full of projects, and a head full of ideas. now, i'm too tired out to do much more than "maintain". if you know me well, come on over, and i'll find a horizontal surface for you to sit on. most of them are covered with papers, reference books, continuing education, and fabric. if you are expecting to see a showplace, don't bother coming over, or give me a week's notice. never--i repeat, NEVER wear your white gloves or expect perfection. i have a life outside my home, and it consumes most of my time.

and when i retire in a few years, my first two weeks are going to be spent in my jammies, just catching up on sleep. then, and only then should you approach the house. and then, bring chocolate. or fabric. or both. then, we'll talk.

crabby old broad, huh? nope. it's self defense. i'm too tired to care, and too old to compete. home is where i come to hide out--not to show it off. come to visit me, not to look at the environment. if you arrive and surprise me, i'm not responsible for my reaction--or for ignoring you out there, knocking on my door...

My home is alway open for family or visitors, I have nothing to hide and the welcome mat means exactly what it says.

I enjoy people but call first, usually its just a few things to pick up since my sewing is out in the other room. But I maybe leaving for a while or not feeling good or not feeling like having anyone over for a visit, so I tell people call first !

I like a call ahead. I myself don't feel comfortable just dropping in on someone. I think its courtesty.

Drop-in's drive me crazy. I would prefer a call first. Sometimes my house is not in the neatest condition, sometimes I have more dishes in the sink than just a cup or bowl, sometimes I just don't feel like dealing with people and being a good hostess.
I try to call and give somebody a heads up and let them know if I would like to stop in to say hi, that way if it isn't convienent for visitors they can say so. Even placing a phone call to just chit chat I will try and ask if it is a good time.

If you are coming to see me drop in anytime if you are coming to see my house call two months in advance!