what would it be ..............

raising my kids.

Having a career

Schooling....to have a career instead of a job

I stopped going to nursing school in the middle because it was hard on the family I studied hard & did very well...if I had it to do over I'd have finished! Life would be very different if I had finished!!

I would have gone to school to be a teacher.

I would have paid more attention to the guy I met when I was 14-15yrs old . He would become my husband 30 yrs later. we would have had all those years together.

Got a better education

I would not have gotten married the first time and I probably wouldn't have had children. I would have gone to college instead.

Would have gone to college instead of vocational program.

Hm, this is hard.

The first thing that came to mind was that I'd have studied harder in college (I didn't get serious until close to my last year), but really, not studying wasn't the reason I didn't go to grad school, it was because I couldn't afford it.

The other thing I'd do over would be to get married instead of struggling to create a career. But honestly, as much as I would like to have married and had kids, I'd still choose grad school and the career I originally wanted.

same as athomenow -no early marriage, no early children, stay in college, then maybe see what.

But you are together now and that counts for a lot.

To have said NO! The day the surgeon demanded I get a terminally I'll man out of bed!! I blew out my back and have been disabled since!!! I was 28 and the patient died 3 days later!! Nursing education wasted. I loved being a nurse and had a gift. I could look at a patient at times and hear the symptoms and know what was wrong before Dr's did! I still can look at ppl in public and see a health issue! Freaks out DH!! Lol And gave my children stronger religious background!!

I have found that the road I traveled has made me who I am today, so since I like who I see in the mirror I wouldn't change anything I've done. I would love to have my son back.

I don't like to think about the "what ifs" because it causes too much discontent for where I am now. What is, is and thinking about the changes I should have made may be better in my mind but possibly may not have brought me to this good place in my life now.

I would have finished college the 1st time around, taught for however long, then been able to retire with a pension. I do not regret marrying who I did, having my wonderful kids and a good life for a number of years. I finally got my BA in a different field when I was 39, the same year my oldest graduated from high school. But I didn't do anything with it, except for my own pleasure. When I had to get a job after my divorce, I wasn't qualified for much of anything & eqrning just a bit more than minimum wage. I'll be working until I drop dead at my cash register.

I would have lost the excess weight after each of my 4 pregnancies and kept it off. Now, at 62, it is really difficult.

What about you, Dreamer?

I would have come from a family
that loved and cared about me...
that would have formed a completely different me...
a me I would probably like today.

i would have chosen a better husband

OMG, how sad, if you don't like yourself, why not change. The most important thing in life is to love yourself first!!!
God Bless.

Even thinking about do-overs causes problems and issues in your life today. If I had paid more attention in high school and gone on to college then, I wouldn't have had my children and I wouldn't change that for anything. Everything happens for a reason and sometimes with no logical explanation....but God knows and his plan for me is what it is....I can't change it. I'm ok with that. Otherwise how would I have ever met my husband of 10 years. I just can't imagine not having the wonderful children and gkids that I do. No do-overs for me!

no need for do overs here!!!

Would have realized sooner that I was in an abusive marriage and gotten out before he cheated on me and I hit rock bottom.

I would have finished the quilted pillows I was working on for my sister. She had to have surgery last Friday, and I stayed by her bedside this week until the ventilator was removed yesterday. She passed away within two minutes. We were best friends and seldom missed a day talking to each other. I miss her terribly already.

Wouldn't have married the first hubby, should have finished signing the papers to join the WACs. But I did get two marvelous daughters out of that marriage.

You know, since I think I am in a good place right now, and I figure everything I did before this got me here (good and bad), I don't think I would like to have a do over.....

well maybe I shouldn't have had that second piece of pie yesterday.

DITTO>>>..I could so relate to this. Oh and I wish I had walked away from them before the age of 43, too many beating from my mom and sister and that was in front of my children. Why did they do it? Once because I went to my daughters friends moms home for a cup of tea.

I wish I had kept my musical training current, but on the other hand, if I were tinkling the piano keys in my spare time, when would I quilt???

Well-there was this cliff when I was 16 and I sled down it on a dare, breaking my foot in 6 places-and that really has come back to haunt me. . .I'd like a redo on that crazy move. . .

I'm so sorry for your loss.

So sorry for you about your sister.

Dreamer, I was so sorry to read your answer. Yes, if only we could do over some of the things we had no power to change.

But...

Imagine yourself several years from now, looking back on this day. Is there anything you can do over now, so that on that future day, you will be happier with yourself and your life?

All we can do is go forward. But the nice thing is, you get to work at more than one do-over. (And me, too - I need to keep this in mind for myself, too.)

I'd have left my second husband sooner...he had me convinced that I couldn't house or feed my kids...I know better now...

While I have read everyone's responses and had different emotions while I read them I am still struggling w/ the one thing I would do over...and yes I have told myself "everything happens for a reason" and I just need to except it. For the most part I have but there is that nagging 20% that still eats away at me some days.Yes struggling w/ a question that will probably never get a answer.
Hugs,
dee

First off Jill, I am so sorry about your sister.

Second Dreamer, I agree with Lisanne - find the do-over you can still do today so that in the future, you can look in the mirror and feel loved and worthy. There is still time!

As for my do-over, I would have worked harder at school and gone farther with my education. I would not change my personal choices (even though I made some dooseys - Never NEVER date a man who nicknames himself "Merlin!")If I changed the bad choices, I would not be here now, with two beautiful sons and a husband who really loves me. So I accept the bad choices and the things I could not control because they are all part of the journey that has led me here. And despite the fact I don't wear a size 8 and drive a 1969 Mustang, here is still pretty darned good!

I agree, while we may have made some choices we wish we could change they do turn us into the person we are today, and sometimes that is not a bad thing.

I think I would turn my then step-father in for child abuse.

gone to NYC to Columbia and gone for a PhD in some kind of history - archeology
helped more animals and people along my way -
sharet