I totally agree. I have been in rescue for a while also. You have to let them work it out. I had 8 cats, now I have 9. We think an elderly person either died or moved because someone let out an arthritic 14 yr old cat. He had been on his own for some time. Weighed 5 lbs. It was either put him down or bring him into the fold. You have to understand I had just gotten the 8 to get along and then brought in this 9th. I watched as he let everyone know whose boss. It took about 5 days, some it takes longer. Just let them work it out. Oh yeah the sprays etc. to calm them down never worked for me. I spent a fortune on them, would have been better to sink the money into other things. She also needs a king's x. A place where she can go to get away from the boys. Right now it is spring and even if they are neutered it is still hard wired in their brain. Things will calm down I guarantee.

Oh yeah one more thing. I have brought in grown cats who never knew each other that curl up together to sleep.

My Mom has 2 cats...the only thing they fight about is the antique rocker...it's upsetting to her when they fight...but the other day when I walked in, both of them were stretched out, side by side in the rocker...it might take a long time(she's had them both for a couple of years), but they will eventually get use to one another...good luck!!! :thumbup: :thumbup: :thumbup: Naomi

I have 7 cats, all indoor. Whenever I introduced a new cat into the household, the others would get upset, hiss, check out the new intruder in their territory. I have two that are declawed (came t hat way) and the others are not declawed. It always took up to a week for the new one to feel comfortable, but right now, I have certain cats that will cuddle up with each other, but o nly certain ones, and the rest just go to other cats. they seem to have their own hierarchy and there is a dominant cat in the house, and I think it is becuase he is the largest and the other cats know it. Eventually, I believe all your cats will get along, but it will take time. Good luck.

Eeyore, my Maine Coon, was the top of the roost until I brought in the arthritic 14 yr old cat Bob. (short for Bag Of Bones)Bob stalks Eeyore but you have to know Bob goes in slow motion. He can't jump but he pulls himself up on the ottoman. To understand how fast Bob moves, my husband saw something black move from his closet. I asked what it was and he said it was Bob's shadow trying to catch up with him from 2 days ago. Anyway my big ferocious Eeyore jumped in my arms almost sobbing because Bob was stalking him. I just shake my head and carry the twenty pound cat to the bed where Bob cannot reach him.

Different cat problem
I have 2 siblings,that have been good about sharing the litterbox although one is male. Lately the female has escalated from peeing in the front hall, on my husband's
jeans in the floor in the bathroom,to now pooping in the hall and peeing in my shoe in the bathroom. There hasn't been any thing that I can think of to make her mad,jealous or afraid. They are basically indoor cats but have their cat box in the sun room with a doggy door to the outside. They don't venture out much unless we are out and never leave the yard. We tried confining them to the sun room 2 nights but my husband says he can't stand to see them upset. Any thoughts?

well you could try a second litter box, then if that doesnt' help take her to the VET for a ckup.

I have a male and a female cat. They hate eachother most
days but sometimes he gives her a kiss. Just like a man.

My little Lucky (only 3 legs) puts the run onto our male and
our daughters male when outside.
I say give them time. Let them find and choose their own space
It will happen.

NO don't put a dog in the mix. It'll drive YOU nuts. Just be
patient with the cats.

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Some cats will never get along with other cats no matter what you do. Should that be the case the only answer is separation. My daughter who is a Vet has 11 house cats (vets seem to just be everyone's drop off for unwanted) and she has her 2 old lady cats she calls them that have to stay in a room away from the rest. They do get along well together though. One for a long time would just climb up on the mantel and not get off so she finally just gave in and gave her private room and the other one she added later.

OMG! I thought I was the only one with this problem. I have 4 neutered indoor boys: Oliver Twist (17), the twins Ingo and Kerbe (10) and Spot (9). While we don't have the peeing issue, Spot is like a ghost and no one but my son and I have ever seen him as he lives mostly in the basement. Unfortunately, Spot seems to have a genetic problem in that he can be walking down the hall and just let the poop fly. Yesterday he left me a "gift" on my bathroom rug. He hates me (wonder who he thinks buys his food and cleans the boxes) but loves/adores my son. When we first got him (a request from my vet) he had to be on Valium because he was so hyper and I'll tell ya, I have the medical bills and my son has the scars to prove it. That never worked, but over the years he has calmed down somewhat, not that he'll ever be socialized like the other three. I guess you just have to make the most of what you have. Spot is beautiful, beautiful with looong gossamer hair but, like a two-legged child, I took him for better or worse and have certainly put in my years of "worse." I have no words of wisdom; it's all trial and error. After I retired I worked for a group of 63 Veterinary Pathologists and none of them had any answers either.