Sounds like he wants her to have it and was questioning to see if you would have hurt feelings if he gave it to her. Sensitive Son!

Let her keep the quilt. I use Hobbs or Warm and Natural cotton batting. It is thin and light weight. I don't like a heavy quilt or too warm.

I'd let her take it so he wouldn't have it lying around (or have to 'hide' it) to stop the bad memories... Make him a new one for him to enjoy himself....

I agree also!

The quilt was a gift and he obviously meant it for her. IMHO

I use warm and natural/white in my quilts for my sons and they love it. Warm enough, but not too warm. For daily use I made a simple 4 patch with a camping themed pattern square in between. This is for everyday use and is very loved. Your son will love whatever you create for him.

I agree.

I agree

I would tell him that you will support what ever decision he decides to make and that you will make him another one. I know that my kids would keep it since I made it but that's just the way they are. I have always heard that when you use cotton batting it is cooler to use in different seasons. If he's one that no matter what season it is he stays on the warm side try using flannel as the batting; make sure you wash it first so that if it wants to shrink it'll do it before it's quilted.

You should be very proud of your son for even asking what he should do. I also believe he was asking for your approval to let her have it...(The quilt) LOL...

It would be in bad taste to request the quilt back... according to my mother; I ran into the same situation about 8 years ago..... let her keep it. As far a s a summer weight quilt goes, use flannel, make sure you wash & dry it several times to get all the shrinking out of it. That'll make a nice light quilt.