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diogirl 05-03-2011 11:24 AM

Ok I like dogs. I've owned them most of my life. I don't currently own one. The situation here is this. Me and my husband's friends have 3. Two Boston Terriors and a Dobermin. When we go to there house, their dogs are all over the place jumping on us and climbing all over us when we sit on their couch. They slober on you and nudge you with their wet noses. I have to constantly wash my hands. I don't want to be rude but I want to ask them to control their dogs and put them in their pins when we are there. It's at the point that I don't like going over there because of their dogs. I don't think the dogs should have run of the house but they do, getting on the couches with their slobbery toys. I feel horrible feeling this way but I think that if you are having company over, you should make them feel welcome and control your animals. I understand that lots of people see their dogs as family and thats fine, but when you have company over, you should take their feelings into consideration. After all, they are your guests. What do you suggest? Should I ask them? I don't want to offend them but at the same time, I'm running out of reasons why I'm busy when they ask us to come over. :-(

sueisallaboutquilts 05-03-2011 11:27 AM

That sounds like total chaos!!! I love dogs but it sounds like they aren't disciplined at all.
I don't blame you but have no idea except to tell them the truth (kindly of course)
I feel that pets are family but we disciplined our children too! lol

Vicki W 05-03-2011 11:29 AM

If you enjoy their company, invite them to your house and you won't have to worry about the dogs.

If/when the opportunity comes up, I would bring it up and share that it bothers you. It really depends on how close you are and how much you value the relationship. You are right, it is necessary to tread carefully to keep from hurting feelings. But you need to share your feelings as well otherwise you will become resentful.

Magdalena 05-03-2011 11:32 AM

Be honest. I have three cats and although they are cats, one of them acts like a dog. So, being that some of my guest have allergies, I do make sure that my cats are in a safe and comfortable environment and I love making sure my family or guest are comfortable. I do like the fact that we are all having a good time. I am thankful that my guest are honest and let me know their concerns, that what friends and family do.

KathyAire 05-03-2011 11:32 AM

When friends come to my house, I put my dogs in the bedroom and put up a baby gate. There are a few people that come and are truly dog people. The dogs know it, they greet them and then they settle down.

That said, your friends know how their dogs act. If I were in your shoes, I wouldn't go to their house. The dogs live there. The owners know the dogs are rowdy. They don't do anything about it. End of story. If you want to visit with them, invite them to your house instead.

Quiltforme 05-03-2011 11:35 AM

Start inviting them to your home she needs to know her dogs are bothering you. To her that is normal behavior she probably has No ideathat they bother you I could not stay there I have germ issues.
Good luck!

Chasing Hawk 05-03-2011 12:02 PM

Sounds like the dogs are the pack leaders. It will take a lot of work on their part to reverse the situation but it is possible.

cinnya 05-03-2011 12:07 PM

What if you invite them to your house............................................. ....and they bring the dogs :shock: :shock:

ptquilts 05-03-2011 12:18 PM

I know how you feel, I had to drop an acquaintance/friend because of her obnoxious dog. Just couldn't stand to go over there and was afraid to invite her over cause she would prob. want to bring the dog. How do you invite someone and say "but not your dog..."

SuziC 05-03-2011 12:32 PM

If they are good friends, i would tell them how you feel. I myself have 3 very large dogs and NEVER let them make company feel like that. They have their own places in my house and outside. Some people have asked us "where are your dogs" because i don't let them "maul" anyone. Honesty is always best.


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