I have a sister and half-brother who have not talked to me since our mother died 6yrs ago. I say life is to short to be so petty. There is a saying stab me once shame on you stab me twice shame on me, NEVER again. And guess what life does go on. I have made peace one to many times and now it is their turn. I don't want to sound negative but keep your guard up. Hoping all turns out well for you and your family.

I'm so happy for you! By all means keep the steps light! I can relate fully to this situation - i have one of my own and I just keep the door open - if she wishes to enter, that would be wonderful, if not - well, the door remains open!

That is great news - maybe this is just the beginning! My ex has not spoken to our daughter in almost a year - treats her like an acquaintance. Still does not know why. His family feels horribly about it so maybe they will speak up next time they see him.

Peace and forgiveness are good! What a wonderful Christmas gift.

i agree about his kids i keep putting my hand out to them and nothing so as sad as it was i said enough there was problems before my DH passed but tried to keep the line open sence then but no responce except 1

I have a sister in law who lives in the same town as my DH (her brother) and I do. I always try to speak to her and be friendly but she would turn her back to me. We would get notes and cards from her regularly,wishing DH would make amends. I called her and suggested she call him and make a "date" with him. That way, they can visit and get over the conflict. It have been two weeks and she have not called him. But the ball is back in her court, sadly.

My brother and I had a a terrible relationship growing up, even in our 20's we couldn't be in the same room together longer than 5 minutes before we would start arguing with each other. Just by chance, we discovered that our mother, thinking she was "helping" us with our relationship, was actually the reason it was so bad. We got along after that but it wasn't until our mom passed away that we became really close.

So it was especially hard when my SIL turned her back on us, although it really wasn't out of character for her to do so. And my brother isn't a strong person so I wasn't surprised when he just accepted it.

So now I'm just hoping we will get back on an even keel. It really helps that my DH totally understands, probably better than my brother and I ever will, since he's known her all his life.

that is so good to hear. I wish my son would see the daylight & man up. But he too won't rock the boat because the wife & kids are in the boat, even tho he knows what has been said is the truth. I've apologized that the arguement happened but that's not enough for his wife. It's 5 months today that they have been dragging this on & I just don't play those games well. Hard to figure out & I tried killing this girl with kindness for 9 yrs. No one could understand how I remained so calm & collected when it came to her. I never play their head games they play so I ignored anything she was trying to 'create'. I feel it is their loss not mine other than not seeing my grandkids like we use to. Her girlfriend put it best when she called her a 'physco b&***" one time. That name has stuck in the back of my mind every since!

Nothing is better than a mended family. We have had major family issues over the past 20 years, but now everyone loves everyone else, and all is well. I know how it feels, and I am happy your family is healing.

Merry Christmas is right!!

So glad for you! Life is too short not to talk or see each other!