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I think what's most important is that people feel comfortable with the name that they're using and the name they're being called. My step-daughter called me Mom up until her dad cut off the never ending "I need" checks and I wouldn't take her side. Now she calls me by my first name and that's okay by me. I don't really think of them as step children, I just use that to clarify. They aren't my "birth" children but rather my "heart" children.
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I think as long as they call you lovingly, it doesn't matter.
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My husband is the youngest of four children, so I already knew that his parents preferred to be called mom and dad. I got married really young so it's become so natural now that I think of them as Mom and Dad in my own head.
My parents always called their in laws by their first names. I feel more comfy with Mom and Dad. I get the fact that they aren't my parents, but they are the ones that raised the most wonderful man on Earth so Mom and Dad better conveys how much I love them for it than calling them Barb and Jim would. |
Originally Posted by cjomomma
I call mine your mother and your father. Dh just gives me a funny look and says I'm sorry even before he knows what I'm going to say. Our kids refer to them as those ppl but call my parents grandma and papa. We had a good relationship with the in-laws until 2 years ago when we found out they were saying cruel things to our 2 oldest kids when we weren't around. Dh caught his mother and then she denied saying it. Oh well life goes on. Please be kind to your future DIL apparently she loves you if she is calling you Momma before they are married.
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Originally Posted by quiltnerd
From the other side... I call my MIL by her first name. My SIL calls her "mom", but I can't bring myself to do it. I love Sue dearly and think that she is wonderful, but she isn't my mother!
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Our son-in-law calls us by our first names, our daughter-in-law calls me by name and my husband "Pops".
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I call my FIL Mr. C. and my MIL was Mrs. C. (she's deceased). I was never invited to call them anything else. To call them Mom and Dad would not have been acceptable to me as I had my own Mom and Dad - no comparison.
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Originally Posted by Annaquilts
I wonder what does your daughter or son in love, DIL or SIL, call you? My oldest boy is 24 and will be marrying this February. My daughter in love just wrote me a note and called me mama plus our surname. I like it sofar. The name mother in law makes my hair stand up since it has such a negative connotation to me. I think I even use my husbands mother over saying mother in law. OK I can see you are reading this but what do they call you. LOL
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I call my in-laws Mom and Dad,they always made me feel like I was one of theirs.
Our son-in-law calls us by our first names,relationship can be rocky at times. Grandson calls us Grammy and Pop. My Hubby call my parents by their first names,different relationship. |
they call me mom.
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