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Thread: Talked to dd last night....

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    Super Member ginnie6's Avatar
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    and she wants to come home. She's only been at the camp like 14 days! She got written up for having her cell phone....even though her supervisor told her to cause they were getting horses in. She was in absolute tears last night. We talked on the phone for an hour and by the time we hung up she was ok. Background...dd is 19 and away from home for the first time working at a horse camp in Pa. The one who wrote her up is over maintenance. Apparently he was being rather rude to her and several of the other girls on horse staff and she said something about it. So now he has it in for dd. I told her just to be exceedingly nice to him and not give him a reason to harass her....lay on that southern charm she has so much of. Then I asked her if she wanted me to come "take care" of him....she said yes! Momma Bear to the rescue if need be! Seriously though her supervisor is a friend of a friend and is being papa bear with her. He was furious that the guy wrote her up.So hopefully things will settle down and she will enjoy her summer. Dh and I have decided though that I need to speed up on her quilt I'm going to make and send it to her before camp is over. So today I make the signature blocks to send up there to be signed. Then once they are in the mail I'll start on the rest. In the meantime I'm thankful I don't have to deal with this guy......I'm past the age of caring what others think and he's messing with MY little girl.....course if the guy had seen dh's face when I told him about this he'd run!

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    you go Mamma Bear!!!! When I finally was able tot alk to my mommy is basic training,, she wanted to come kick some as*. tear my drill sgts apart.. (mymommy is 5'3..on tippy toes..) but she talked me through it,, send billions of cards,, but come graduation,,she wanted to kill them all! No matter how old we get,, we always run right back to the comfort of mommy!!!! Hope to see a pic of her quilt!!!! :thumbup:

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    You are right mrsdralshhadeh, us mommys will always be there for our kids to bring them comfort, kiss all the boo boos away and take care of the mean ones who hurt our babies.

    I still call my littlest one my baby! He is 31 and in the Army!

    ginnie6. I know this is a hard time for you having dd away, but hang in there, she will be fine. Send her [[hugs]] from us all. and {{{Hugs}}} to you.

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    Aw, tell her to hangin there. Hugs to you both!

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    I think it will be a good summer for her....if she gets over being homesick. But yea I could kick some *$$ for hurting her feelings. Oh and I'm 5'3" on a good day...osteo hasn't kicked in yet apparently! DD delights in telling people "you don't wanna mess with my momma...she's got a shot gun and can skin a deer!" lol!

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    Us Momma Bears have to stick together. I don't care how old they are Momma Bear is always there for them. You go girl

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    Hopefully she will adjust and have a great time and make new friends. My oldest is 40 and I still want to mother her!!

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    There is nothing worse than being homesick!! I moved from Il. to Ca. at 18 with my husband and baby. Couldn't afford to make long distant calls back then, and when I could talk to mom or dad, I started crying as soon as I heard their voice. I'm sure it made my parents, feel really great NOT! I was so homesick, I actually left my husband to go back home! lol I grew up, a little, and we transferred to KY. which was closer to home, and at least the homesickness was a little better, but it never left completely, not for many years. My husband turned down many lucretive positions over the years just because I wouldn"T leave my kids. And we've never had regrets about that. Now they all live within 20 minutes of me and we all like that just fine. Mommas are the best thing in the world!! Next to children and grandkids!!

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    I don't want to step on toes but maybe send some cards to reinforce of how she is becoming a beautiful strong woman. Things like that to build her confidence up. Sounds like she has it , she just wants to hear it from you. You are her ROCK and always will be. Hopw she knows how lucky she is to have a Mother that cares soo much.

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    I agree! Tell her to get out there and get the job done. While it is tough to hear them cry, she is the one with the growing pains.

    This experience is teaching her to become an independant young adult and is GOOD for her. I was in the USMC, and while this guy might be tough, I guarantee any one of my DIs could take him with one petite hand tied behind their backs. She will become the same way, intelligent strong and independent.

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    I encouraged her last night.....told her we didn't have wimpy girls here and I KNEW she could tough it out! I told her that one day she would look back at this summer and laugh....whether it was because she had so much fun or was so homesick the whole time. I really do think it will be a learning experience for her. it is funny though...we don't live close to any family and my family is wrote the book on dysfunctional so we are not close to them. I guess somewhere along the line we figured out how to do this and be close. Oldest dd is planning on marrying in a few years and they will definitely be staying close....between both sets of parents she says. DD#2 thought for awhile she was in love with a boy from Pa but said he would have to move here or we all would have to move there!

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    Ginnie, sounds like she just neede a shoulder to cry on. Mom's are good for that, to be sure. She is going to tough this out because she wants to spend the summer with the horses, if nothing else. This was just a tiny pothole on the highway of life. Wait, wrong metaphor.....A road apple on the trail. That is better. A thrown shoe in the stampede of life? Wait, one more. A burr under her saddle. Anyway tell her to stop letting him poop in her Cheerios!

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    What a good time for her to learn there are jerks in this world.....and usually, one in every workplace. By working with her until she was okay was a good thing. If you'd let her run home, she'd have been running home every time things got tough. We joke and call situations like that (after the hurt is over) that it was "character building"......and we admit we're not sure if we want to be that kind of character!!!! LOL....

    What a great opportunity for her to work at the horse ranch!!!!! Have fun with the quilt.

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    Just be encouraging and rather than sympathize and console (which is our natural instinct) tell her that she can get through this, that she comes from some pretty tough stock. Do what you can to bolster her courage and she'll be the better for it. If that doesn't work, you can also kick the ____ out of the guy at the end of the summer. She will be fine and better off for the experience. I sent my DD to church camp last year for the first time (age 10 then) and I think I had a rougher time. She was only homesick for a day, I went through torture for all 5 days. I wasn't even off the camp grounds when I was ready to turn around and go get her. It's hard to let them grow up but we have to eventually.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pam
    I agree! Tell her to get out there and get the job done. While it is tough to hear them cry, she is the one with the growing pains.

    This experience is teaching her to become an independant young adult and is GOOD for her. I was in the USMC, and while this guy might be tough, I guarantee any one of my DIs could take him with one petite hand tied behind their backs. She will become the same way, intelligent strong and independent.
    Pam, that is one great post!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :thumbup:

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    It's so hard to hear our kids cry because someone hurt them, but she is tough and will stronger because of this summer.

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    how is your daughter getting along now, I hope she is having a great time now and enjoying camp

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    Quote Originally Posted by littlehud
    It's so hard to hear our kids cry because someone hurt them, but she is tough and will stronger because of this summer.
    I totally agree, very hard, but you're right....... it will make her stronger :)

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    She was going to go home with one of the other girls this weekend so I hope it is going well. I am going to try and text her today and see.

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