Bargaining Power
08-02-2010, 07:27 PM
#22
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My DH says you have a checkbook so use it but then he complains about the money. I remind him he has more money tied up in his antique car than I do in all of my fabric, machines and gadgets, Of course if I lived to be 100 I could never use it all.
08-03-2010, 03:43 AM
#23
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Location: South Texas
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So happy to hear that there are other DH's out there like mine. Many times I feel guilty for spending so much money, because he doesn't. He rarely spends money on himself, but he does like fishing gear and I usely buy that for him. He never complains about a messy house and says, "If it bothers me I will clean it up." And he does! He's definately a keeper.
08-03-2010, 03:51 AM
#24
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Location: Somerset PA
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My Hubby likes toys!
toy tractors,trucks,matchbox etc
He never says a word.
and if I mention that I know I spent alot
his comment is well you will use it eventually!
today is my 25th anniversary! and my DS and his wifes 1st!
toy tractors,trucks,matchbox etc
He never says a word.
and if I mention that I know I spent alot
his comment is well you will use it eventually!
today is my 25th anniversary! and my DS and his wifes 1st!
08-03-2010, 03:53 AM
#25
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Posts: 462
In our house, DH and I have an unspoken understanding. DH would never dream of complaining about how much time I spend on my relaxing, creative scrapbooking and quilting hobbies and the lack of time I spend on housework. I would never dream of complaining about how much time he spends sitting at that stupid, waste-of-time, waste-of-money, brain-sucking computer and the hundreds of hours spent talking to his friends about the same dang topic over and over and over, and the lack of time he spends on the dead and dying lawn and landscaping.
08-03-2010, 04:05 AM
#26
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: South Texas
Posts: 639
Originally Posted by mlaceruby
My Hubby likes toys!
toy tractors,trucks,matchbox etc
He never says a word.
and if I mention that I know I spent alot
his comment is well you will use it eventually!
today is my 25th anniversary! and my DS and his wifes 1st!
toy tractors,trucks,matchbox etc
He never says a word.
and if I mention that I know I spent alot
his comment is well you will use it eventually!
today is my 25th anniversary! and my DS and his wifes 1st!
08-03-2010, 05:31 AM
#27
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: Oak Ridge TN
Posts: 733
I was organizing in my sewing room on Sunday and DH wandered in and made the comment that "All this crap needs to go" meaning my sewing machines and stash. I tartly told him that this room (an 8x10) was Off Limits to him and none of his concern. Just like his 3 -20 ft containers that he has his "stuff" in is off limits to me. That was unless he was willing to share. He quickly retreated to the TV. We have been married 33 years and he still has hoof-in-mouth disease. :-)
08-03-2010, 06:16 AM
#28
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Join Date: Jun 2010
Location: Connecticut River, northern NH
Posts: 914
Originally Posted by Sunflower Girl
Stopped by WalMart while in Amarillo yesterday, and told husband I just needed a little bit to work on some purses next week. Well, after we got out of the store, he said, "I thought you said it was only going to be about $12?" (It was $30) I said, "I think you spend that much on beer for a week." That shut him up. About 10 minutes later, he agreed and apologized! See, you just have to know the right words to make them think!
08-03-2010, 06:34 AM
#29
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Location: Colorful Colorado
Posts: 357
I thought this would be appropriate to this conversation. It is an old one, but funny...
Jim -The Thoughtful Husband...
It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to yell at them. Some are
over-sensitive, and there's nothing worse than an over-sensitive woman.
My name is Jim. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife, Peggy. When I retired a few years ago, it became necessary for Peggy to get a full-time job along with her part-time job, both for extra income and for
the health benefits that we needed.
Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home from the golf club about the same time she gets home from work and although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men's Grill at the club so eating out twice is not reasonable. I'm ready for some home-cooked grub when I hit that door.
She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it's not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening that they won't clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.
Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take 'em for better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't hurt her any (if you know what I mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong points.
When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the lawn. I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big,
cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. And, as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me too.
I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Peggy. I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is easy.! Many men will find it difficult. Some will even find it impossible! Nobody knows better than I do
how frustrating women get as they get older.
However, guys, even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other.
Signed
Jim
EDITOR'S NOTE:
Jim died suddenly on May 27 of a perforated rectum.The police report says he was found with a Calloway extra long 50-inch Big Bertha Driver II golf club jammed up his rear end, with barely 5 inches of grip showing and a sledge
hammer laying nearby. His wife Peggy was arrested and charged with murder. The all-woman jury took only 15 minutes to find her Not Guilty, accepting her defense that Jim somehow, without looking, accidentally sat down on his
golf club.
Happy Quilting!
susan
Jim -The Thoughtful Husband...
It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to yell at them. Some are
over-sensitive, and there's nothing worse than an over-sensitive woman.
My name is Jim. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife, Peggy. When I retired a few years ago, it became necessary for Peggy to get a full-time job along with her part-time job, both for extra income and for
the health benefits that we needed.
Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home from the golf club about the same time she gets home from work and although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men's Grill at the club so eating out twice is not reasonable. I'm ready for some home-cooked grub when I hit that door.
She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it's not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening that they won't clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.
Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take 'em for better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't hurt her any (if you know what I mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong points.
When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the lawn. I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big,
cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. And, as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me too.
I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Peggy. I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is easy.! Many men will find it difficult. Some will even find it impossible! Nobody knows better than I do
how frustrating women get as they get older.
However, guys, even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other.
Signed
Jim
EDITOR'S NOTE:
Jim died suddenly on May 27 of a perforated rectum.The police report says he was found with a Calloway extra long 50-inch Big Bertha Driver II golf club jammed up his rear end, with barely 5 inches of grip showing and a sledge
hammer laying nearby. His wife Peggy was arrested and charged with murder. The all-woman jury took only 15 minutes to find her Not Guilty, accepting her defense that Jim somehow, without looking, accidentally sat down on his
golf club.
Happy Quilting!
susan
08-03-2010, 06:50 AM
#30
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Join Date: Jul 2009
Location: Nashua, NH
Posts: 1,463
Originally Posted by MomtoBostonTerriers
In our house, DH and I have an unspoken understanding. DH would never dream of complaining about how much time I spend on my relaxing, creative scrapbooking and quilting hobbies and the lack of time I spend on housework. I would never dream of complaining about how much time he spends sitting at that stupid, waste-of-time, waste-of-money, brain-sucking computer and the hundreds of hours spent talking to his friends about the same dang topic over and over and over, and the lack of time he spends on the dead and dying lawn and landscaping.
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