Did I really break my promise?
#52
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Join Date: Dec 2009
Location: Oklahoma City, OK
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Originally Posted by milp04
How did he expect you to have a back for the quilt? Pam M
Well, I just couldn't tell her the right way so I did indeed do "that thing you do on the edge" after adding a backing to each and just tacking it in several places so it didn't ruin her quilting. I did show her a few years later and she said straight-faced and all "Oh garsh, I knew something was missing on it but I never could figure out just what that was." :lol: Ya gotta love her though!
To the OP, sorry but I had to share this when I seen that comment. I don't think you broke your promise as it was only bought in order to keep your promise. Win-win, right? ;-)
#54
For me this is a strange question in that I never hide, find excuses or whatever to purchase fabric. That said there are many threads on basically this subject with members needing to hide, fib, or whatever. My question is WHY????? I don't expect to be lied to from my husband for any reason and in turn I would never lie to him. Communicaton and trust in each other is the only way to go and it's worked for me for 39 years.
For clarification sake I am not inferring you did fib, but be open and honest when you need/want something especially when you have said you wouldn't purchase anything until you had completed your UFO's or rather he had asked you to finish before you made any further purchases. A promise is a promise and if you need something you hadn't counted on just be honest with him. Justification in our minds may not be justification in his and respect of each other is very important.
For clarification sake I am not inferring you did fib, but be open and honest when you need/want something especially when you have said you wouldn't purchase anything until you had completed your UFO's or rather he had asked you to finish before you made any further purchases. A promise is a promise and if you need something you hadn't counted on just be honest with him. Justification in our minds may not be justification in his and respect of each other is very important.
#55
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Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Minnesota
Posts: 1,918
You did not break your promise. If you didn't get backing you could not finish. Also maybe his way of thinking is for you to stop quilting and spending money. If you can't buy fabric to finish you can't finish and buy!!! Does he have any hobbies?? And someone said, apologize!!! are they crazy???
#59
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Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: Central Texas
Posts: 701
Originally Posted by jillaine
Originally Posted by deema
Maybe if you'd mentioned it to him before heading to the store, he wouldn't feel like you'd broken the promise?
And really, it doesn't matter what WE think about whether or not you broke your promise. (We're not married to you.) The key is: your spouse felt you did.
I would simply apologize, and then come to a revised agreement about what you should do if/when this situation occurs in the future.
Best to you,
Jillaine
#60
Don't forget ladies, this was one of those teasing things, and they are just joking around about it. I don't have to hide anything I buy either. I was allocated paying the bills by him, and he says I know what we can afford. Plus, he is always buying for his hobby......
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