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    Has anyone thought about this?

    Has anyone thought about what would happen to all you quilt "stuff" if you died? I was talking to my husband yesterday and told him that if I died, to call my quilting friend, Nettie, and have her come over and go through all my quilting items and price them and then to advertise a sell as "Quilter's Estate Sale". I found that I had 56 FQ of asian fabric plus yardage of it also. And that was just the beginning. I have so many FQ, kits, jelly rolls, charms, layer cakes, yards and yards of fabric, every notion you can imagine, tons of thread, two sewing machines, all kinds of containers for my FQ and fabric, pins, needles, rulers, ruler holders, patterns, quilting books, buttons, embroidery thread, batting, mats, all kinds of different containers to hold all my little gadgets, gadgets, irons, ironing boards, fusible web, spray starch not even opened, glue, binding machine, storage units, bookcases, dressers, cutting tables, lights, serge protectors, safety pins for quilting, tons of stash, etc. Lots of things my husband would have no use for but quilters would want. I have so much as I'm sure all of us quilters do and I don't want it to be boxed up and given to Salvation Army or sold at a yard sale. I want quilters to have first pick. So my husband knows now what to do "if" I die tomorrow. I'm only 57 but you never know.
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    I don't have nearly as much as you do, but I told my DH to call my friend Deb, a member of this board, and llet her take whatever she wants. Then maybe she could sell or donate the rest here on the board. If you read this Deb, I don't plan on this happening any time soon!!
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    My sister has so much quilty stuff when she lost her battle with colon cancer that it became a nitemare & unfortunately much of it got trashed. I was 300 miles away & still working/teaching when she passed. I tried mainly to deal with the over 2,500 quilt books & have been sending them all over the world. Because of this experience & not having any family or relatives interested in quilting, I try to keep my quilt items under control by finding good homes for things I don't think I will use in my lifetime.

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    Well...I'm slightly younger than you (very slightly) but my DH would treat my things properly and dispose of them in a way that would ensure they're loved. But if DH and I were to go at the same time, DS would probably just dump everything. So I plan on living a long time.

    As for the rest of our belongings, we're in the process of cleaning things out so 1) we can plan for future relocation and 2) nobody else has to clean up after us. After my father died and my mother had to move into assisted living, I was left with the task of cleaning out their condo. (My only local sibling declined to help - other than to help himself to some "stuff". Thankfully, I had DH helping me.) But it was agonizing making decisions about their things. So agonizing that we have lots of boxes in OUR basement.

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    I will soon be 73 and my family has no idea how much what I have is worth. You are so right, I need to tell my DD what to do with it.

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    I told my husband, because I know he will out live me, that to contact the quilt guild and have a sale. He has family members that are 100 yrs old! He will be surprized when he finds "stuff"

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    I am in the same boat no family member intersted in sewing at all and I do have alot of things also. I am trying to use up all that I can and get rid of the stuff I know I will never use. But it is hard parting with things for me.

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    DH has a pretty good idea what needs to be done. He helps me with building it..... I do need to let my daughters know what goes where. I have thought about putting stickers on the bottom of my machines with what attachments go with them so the girls can get everything together. I am also going to put a list together for the girls of what goes where and who to contact if they doesn't want the stuff. Being in the medical field and in an area that has lots of 'estate' sales we see what others leave behind for a company to price. It is great for us when we are buying, but bad for the family....

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    One of my daughters quilts, so she will get all my quilting stuff. She knows this and will keep what she wants and sell/donate the rest. She will probably use a lot of the fabric for Project Linus quilts. Our tastes are somewhat different, so she would use what she wouldn't use in her own quilts for Linus quilts.

    I, too, am trying to downsize. It's overwhelming--I have so much "stuff". I've been selling some on eBay and donating. My town has a town-wide garage sale in June. I'm putting together things to (hopefully) sell then. If not, it will be donated.

    When my parents and in-laws died, I had to do a lot, but thankfully I had a lot of help.

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    it is definitely important to let family/friends know how you want your things dispersed when you are gone. even though you may have it in your will, explanations of where to go for the right pricing or dispersion should be clear, as the executor may not know for our specialized hobbies.
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    My daughter gets all my quilting stuff.
    My son gets my power tools.
    They can share the silkscreening stuff/business.
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    They will pass out fat 1/4 and yardage at the service.... anything left will be used for "fill" in the casket. I leu of flowers fabric will be draped or bunched into nice colors, all for attendees to take with them.

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    Yes I have thought about this, I just hope someone who will enjoy it as much as I do winds up with it!!!!!!!!

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    Yeah I've told DH what to do with it if something happens to me and that includes if I get sick and can't make decisions. Sue

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    At first, when I read this I was thinking that it was so sad that there was no one who wanted to take your things... and then I realized that I am in my mid 50's. There is no one who would want my quilting stuff. My (brand new!) DDIL might take some of the materials, but our tastes, too, are very different. Still she's very resourceful and I have afeeling that most of it would wind up on ebay or craigslist... But, the truth is I didn't buy it for anyone else. I bought it for me to enjoy and to share the end products so that they could enjoy. So, if I die and leave a "bunch" oh well. It served me well! and made me very happy...

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    I've thought about having a backhoe dump my fabric in on top of my casket as fill. I know too wasteful but I'm trying to find a way to take it with me! My daughter and daughter-in-law are both crafty so they will get first pick. After that, they can sell it or donate it. I won't care because I won't be there.

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    Gaga, There is an "Estate Sale" in our area tomorrow that belongs (d) to someone just like us. Check out "Estate sales" in the Syracuse Post Standard. It's just south of the village of Skaneateles. One sewing machine and tons of fabric, quilts, quilt squares, etc. I plan to attend, needless to say.


    Quote Originally Posted by GagaSmith View Post
    I don't have nearly as much as you do, but I told my DH to call my friend Deb, a member of this board, and llet her take whatever she wants. Then maybe she could sell or donate the rest here on the board. If you read this Deb, I don't plan on this happening any time soon!!

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    When my Mom passed away my sisters and I split her stash and nothing went to waste. My stuff? Who knows - hopefully I have at least one DIL that has a head on her shoulders and will make the right decisions.

    Speaking of funerals & such: When Mom passed, I called family/friends and asked them to bring the quilts she'd made for them. We draped the quilts on the pews at the funeral home - there were over 30 quilts. The funeral director said he'd never witnessed such a colorful funeral in his 30+ yrs. in the business. It was nice to see all her quilts together at the same time.

    I often think it would have been a honor for her if we'd had the quilts together for a birthday party for her - something we'd never thought of when she was living.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jcrow View Post
    Has anyone thought about what would happen to all you quilt "stuff" if you died? I was talking to my husband yesterday and told him that if I died, to call my quilting friend, Nettie, and have her come over and go through all my quilting items and price them and then to advertise a sell as "Quilter's Estate Sale". I found that I had 56 FQ of asian fabric plus yardage of it also. And that was just the beginning. I have so many FQ, kits, jelly rolls, charms, layer cakes, yards and yards of fabric, every notion you can imagine, tons of thread, two sewing machines, all kinds of containers for my FQ and fabric, pins, needles, rulers, ruler holders, patterns, quilting books, buttons, embroidery thread, batting, mats, all kinds of different containers to hold all my little gadgets, gadgets, irons, ironing boards, fusible web, spray starch not even opened, glue, binding machine, storage units, bookcases, dressers, cutting tables, lights, serge protectors, safety pins for quilting, tons of stash, etc. Lots of things my husband would have no use for but quilters would want. I have so much as I'm sure all of us quilters do and I don't want it to be boxed up and given to Salvation Army or sold at a yard sale. I want quilters to have first pick. So my husband knows now what to do "if" I die tomorrow. I'm only 57 but you never know.
    I have as a matter of fact because I do have a lot of stuff and I know it would overwhelm my family having to get rid of it all. I have decided to put everything in containers and label it. Then I'll leave a list of who gets what. I plan to do this with all my craft items also. Its a lot to think about! I haven't even thought of all my books!!!!!!!!! Oh dear!
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    My daughter (an only child) gets everything I own at my death. I have a few machines and a little fabric. She has a good idea of what everything is worth so I imagine her selling anything she doesn't want to keep for herself.

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    This issue is very much on my mind right now because I just lost my best friend to lung cancer. I will be one of the people helping with her extensive supply of quilting stuff. Thanks to whomever mentioned advertising the sale as a "quilter's estate sale". This is an excellent suggestion and I will be passing it on to her daughter.

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    I have two DD and one DIL who all quilt. So they will divide up my stuff and use it or give it away. Their choice. I won't be around to care.

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    Not that I plan on leaving real soon but Yes, I've recently thought about it after having to move all the totes and shopping bags filled with fabrics that are in my sewing room and sewing room closet and after going through my stash closet. Wow, my stash isn't a big one but I just have too much stuff!. DH knows my sister gets my Pfaff, and her and my best quilting pal get first choice of my stash of fabrics, supplies, etc. The rest gets donated to my Guild.

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    It's funny, my DH and I just talked about this yesterday. I had an EKG come back questionable that I had for pre-op
    for sinus surgery. My husband asked me what I'd want him to do with all my things, should I die. I told him (who doesn't have a crafty bone in his body) oh you will have to learn to quilt -- to finish all of my quilts. LOL

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    This is a great topic! Thanks to all who have contributed! I am now going to ponder this myself. In the meantime, I have a MIL in a nursing home and all she can think of is her stuff, how much she has and what SHE should do about it! She cannot even get out of bed herself, so I just told her it would be there for her and when her time comes, it will be dealt with "respectfully" I am trying to sew up some of her stash, but could do that until my death so I need to find places to donate. I have donated a bunch to Project Linus and to my local quilt store lady to deal with as she has expressed interest for all of the groups she is interested in. gram doesn't know but some of her things are going, (she doesn't remember most of it anyway) but any ideas would be helpful for donation. I don't have time for a garage sale.

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