Most of these suggestions do not work for me. I have to go to our apartment complex laundry room and the machine just runs a whole cycle no stopping it. Because of this, I know longer wash my fabrics either.
I do wash the quilts after they are finished to remove markings. If they wrinkle it does not bother me because I like that look.

Actually , I have done that. You just fill the tub, squish it are d and set it on drain. Kind of like washing it in the bathtub without having to get out a slopping wet batt.

If you don't want to give your friend a special care quilt, then you need a different batting. The instructions provided are what is recommended for the care. I use either Warm and Natural or Hobbs 80/20 for most gift quilts. I've also used the poly batting sold on the roll at Hancocks (it's a bit harder to quilt because it is thicker). All 3 of these can be thrown into the gentle cycle.

As far as laundry detergent, I use Orvus or other horse shampoo myself, but I tell folks to use Woolite for their gift quilts as most standard laundry detergents have some form of bleach in them. For baby quilts, the Mom usually washes it in whatever. All I tell them is that if they vary my recommendations, the quilt will be fine, but won't last as long without color fading.

Thanks NativeTexan, I'm not the one starting this thread but this definitely is wonderful information. Thanks.