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I've been marred for 44 yrs. my DH has been disabled most of that time! So I have worked. Now I'm Retired, I like to sew, make quilts and buy fabric. He would not dare say anything about what I spent on my fabric or any other sewing. I have earned it and he knows when he better off. I'm not being salffish. But I have a desent retirement & he only has SS. Our Money is our Money but He has no right to say any thing
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When my DH says anything about how many sewing machines I have I just ask him how many saws, or hammers, or other tools he has.
He says, "yes, but each one does something different". To which I reply, "and the same with my sewing machines!" |
To Rapture Ready:
I would love to know the name of the pattern of the quilt that is in your side bar on this blog. SweetRosie |
I LOVE that "Jim" story......I could insert my husband's name in that story, and it would almost match him word for word......and I have almost felt like Peggy several times. However, he never says amything about my spending money on my quilting hobby. He says, "You pay the bills, you know whether we can afford it or not." LOL
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I count my blessings - my DH never complains about what I spend on fabric. In fact, nearly every time we travel he will stop at quilt shops with me. While in Arkansas last year we stumbled upon a shop hop - he drove me to 9 out of the 13, all on those wonderful curvy hilly roads that were unfamiliar! He's a keeper!
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Guess what: My DH also moved the TV into my quilting area on the third floor. He says it's being together just to be in the same room even if I have the sewing machine humming while he has the remote humming. He knows I'm enjoying myself and we are not so far removed from one another being on different floors. He also likes to encourage me. Like I need it!! LOL
I don't know for sure but maybe he realized that quilting is not 'just cutting fabric into small pieces so you can sew it back together into a large piece' That comment went over liike a lead balloon. Gotta love him! Sorry I went on so long. So sweet!! Mine often moves to the living room instead of his fav recliner in the family room because it's 50 feet closer to my sewing room:) He says he likes being close -Awww... |
My Dh never says anything about my fabric collection or continued purchases. I'm not sure if he really even notices. He has never said anything ever about my spending on anything but several years back he took over the food shopping when our 3 boys were younger saying that I had enough to do with 3 little ones but I knew what he was thinking. He didn't realize food was so expensive and he felt this would lower the bills. After a few weeks he started cutting out coupons. He still does the shoping and I don't mind. I make out the list and he buys.
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I spoiled my DH in the 46 yrs. we are married, but he has never complained about my fabric or machines. In fact he encourages me and will stop at the fabric store when we go to the VA-45 miles from here. So I guess he spoiled me big time.
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Originally Posted by Sunflower Girl
Stopped by WalMart while in Amarillo yesterday, and told husband I just needed a little bit to work on some purses next week. Well, after we got out of the store, he said, "I thought you said it was only going to be about $12?" (It was $30) I said, "I think you spend that much on beer for a week." That shut him up. About 10 minutes later, he agreed and apologized! See, you just have to know the right words to make them think!
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That is to funny. I use to have to do things like that when I could work, and had money. God bless. Penny
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I really envy all you ladies with nice hubbies. I don't have one, sometimes would like one, but after 20 years married to a man who would ask why I needed to get $20 in CASH out of the bank instead of using my ATM card (because he can't monitor what I spent $20 on) well, I realize that there are worse things than being single! Funny thing (or not so funny) is that I made much more money than he did and I wouldn't question him spending hundreds on a tool/machine.
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mygirl66......have you made a golfing quilt for hubby?
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this posting is funny!! All these stories and making me LAUGH!
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I work full time and we each put in our share for our bills (2nd marriage) so whatever is left over I can do what I want with. I have bought all my equipment and fabric myself, and my DH doesn't say a word.
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Since I pay the bills and he spends his retirement cks as he chooses, I have the same privilege. And he's getting intrigued by the squishies I get in the mail. Yesterday when we were out doing stuff I stopped by a LQS and found a FQ that I thought might be the fabric I needed for sashing on one of my quilts. At the checkout stand he spied the foldup seam ripper I had been looking for and brought it to my attention...now if I could just convince him to go on a cruise for our 40th anniversary...
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Originally Posted by Angellight
I thought this would be appropriate to this conversation. It is an old one, but funny...
Jim -The Thoughtful Husband... It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to yell at them. Some are over-sensitive, and there's nothing worse than an over-sensitive woman. My name is Jim. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife, Peggy. When I retired a few years ago, it became necessary for Peggy to get a full-time job along with her part-time job, both for extra income and for the health benefits that we needed. Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home from the golf club about the same time she gets home from work and although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men's Grill at the club so eating out twice is not reasonable. I'm ready for some home-cooked grub when I hit that door. She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it's not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening that they won't clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed. Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take 'em for better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't hurt her any (if you know what I mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong points. When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the lawn. I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. And, as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me too. I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Peggy. I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is easy.! Many men will find it difficult. Some will even find it impossible! Nobody knows better than I do how frustrating women get as they get older. However, guys, even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other. Signed Jim EDITOR'S NOTE: Jim died suddenly on May 27 of a perforated rectum.The police report says he was found with a Calloway extra long 50-inch Big Bertha Driver II golf club jammed up his rear end, with barely 5 inches of grip showing and a sledge hammer laying nearby. His wife Peggy was arrested and charged with murder. The all-woman jury took only 15 minutes to find her Not Guilty, accepting her defense that Jim somehow, without looking, accidentally sat down on his golf club. Happy Quilting! susan |
:lol: You go girl! I tell my DH he spends way more on golf a week than I do on fabric.
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Thoughtful husband, so hilarious. I have a great guy too, he teases and tells people my hobby keeps me out of his hair
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Originally Posted by Angellight
I thought this would be appropriate to this conversation. It is an old one, but funny...
EDITOR'S NOTE: Jim died suddenly on May 27 of a perforated rectum.The police report says he was found with a Calloway extra long 50-inch Big Bertha Driver II golf club jammed up his rear end, with barely 5 inches of grip showing and a sledge hammer laying nearby. His wife Peggy was arrested and charged with murder. The all-woman jury took only 15 minutes to find her Not Guilty, accepting her defense that Jim somehow, without looking, accidentally sat down on his golf club. |
Originally Posted by QBeth
Originally Posted by CarrieAnne
LOL, I went to a Model T show yesterday with BF, walked around forever, asked questions, it was fun, but a total GUY thing. So we go into the resturauntand they had a really neat quilting book, so I made him buy it for me!
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roflmao I know what you mean *grins* My hubby smokes about a pack a day, that's almost 2k a year! I don't buy fabric nearly as often as I would like, but when I do I can easly spend $50-100. You figure 2k a year allows me to buy fabric a minimum of 20x per year considering his smoking habits (and yes, we split house hold expenses evenly - so I can lol)
Now that doesn't even touch his golfing habit *giggles* Altho, I'm get'n back in to it and so I guess I can't go there lolol |
this thread is really interesting!
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I'm very blessed. While i set and sew or be on the computer my husband cleans.I cook and do the laundry.He never says anything about what I spend.He has his playprettys like atv, kayak, many guns ,bows and arrows,and golf clubs.We feel very blessed to be able to enjoy our retirement. We thank GOD daily for our many blessings.
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Glad you found the trick.
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