Stopped by WalMart while in Amarillo yesterday, and told husband I just needed a little bit to work on some purses next week. Well, after we got out of the store, he said, "I thought you said it was only going to be about $12?" (It was $30) I said, "I think you spend that much on beer for a week." That shut him up. About 10 minutes later, he agreed and apologized! See, you just have to know the right words to make them think!

Touche!

Thats funny!! I made a deal with my husband that when I buy fabric - I also get him some fishing lures :) Worked like a charm. He is so happy to get his lures, he does not even notice my Walmart fabric! :)

My dH never says anything about what I spend on this hobby, but I know he got to think it!!! He did make a comment though when he walked through my sewing room a few weeks ago. He said "Well one thing about it, you can't get much more in this room". Sounded like a challenge to me!

Your right about the beer thing!

Everytime DH goes out a golf outting out of town, he feels bad because Im home alone without him (on a Sat. or Sun.), so he knows what makes me happy, and tells me to go hit the LQS! Im just lucky that way! My first DH(which I refer to as my pratice marriage) always had a HUGE FIT when I brought home fabric!

I remember your telling us this in other posts too. I liked it then and I like it now. :lol: I think my husband could be dangerous in a fabric store. It is his habit to get two of everything and 3 if he thinks I will like it a lot. I have moved my sewing space into the sunroom where he spends his time with the remote and recliner. He feels more included in my quilting and shows interest from start to finish. He has never minimized my fabric, yarn and craft collections. His toys are far more expensive than mine and he is the first to know it!

LOL, I went to a Model T show yesterday with BF, walked around forever, asked questions, it was fun, but a total GUY thing. So we go into the resturauntand they had a really neat quilting book, so I made him buy it for me!

Sometimes those DH allow their mouths to start up before engaging thier brains. Yesterday mine said, "You're so busy sewing that you're letting the things you're supposed to be doing (laundry) slide. You need to quit messing with that machine." I didn't say anything for a little while. When I was ready to leave to go do the grocery shopping I said, "It took a lot of nerve for you to say what you did about my sewing. The only things I've been working on are things for you, the grandchildren and great grandchildren---nothing for myself. I'm going grocery shopping now. While I'm gone perhaps you could do some work---on your attitude or even the laundry." He was better when I got back. He knows better than to tell me what my "job" is but sometimes he forgets. Bless his heart.

That' so true! My hubby is an avid bow hunter so when the fall comes around, he buys his "toys" and i buy fabric. It works out really well!! :lol:

My DH's weakness is lottery tickets and mine is FABRIC, go figure!! It's a WIN WIN situation for both of us.

This is so funny. My Dh woudl never say anything about my fabric load or how much I spend...but reently I have heard a few comments like "Are you ever going to get a paycheck?".( I work part-time at LQS)..."Hmmmmm....is that fabric I see in the back of the car?".....is that what eats your paycheck?....LOL. He is good natured about it...but it gives him something to tease me about.

I quit smoking almost 3 years ago when the price was @$3.85 a pack. I bought two at a time, and I bought packs not cartons. Each day I went to the store and spent more than $10.00. So If you do the math I was spending at least $3,600. a year. DH never complains about what I spend on quilting. Even at my worst, I don't spend as much on quilting as I did on smoking. I don't think he's thought of this, but if he complains I certainly will this to attention. ;P

I can't do this with DH because he never spends money. He says I buy all that he needs so he doesn't need any more for himself. He doesn't complain when the house is a mess, he says if he don't like it he will clean himself. I'm still waiting for that to happen. I'm the one that can't take the mess. My DH is spoiled

You go girl! lol
You got him!

Good job.

Iv'e heard that one also.I don't let him in my fabric room.

I'm so glad I don't have a DH.

I went with my DH to game stop last month and watched him pay $70 for a game without saying a word.
On the way to the car, he looked at me and asked "Arent you going to say something about me spending 70 on a game?"
I just smiled and said "Nope, and neither will you when you notice i spent 150 on fabric".

:D
worked for me, he didnt say a word :D

I am very lucky, my DH never says a word about taking me on shop hops or buying fabric. He has thousands of dollars in tools in the garage and I wouldn't dream of saying anything about the amount of money spent to him. I have even bought tools for him. He never says anything about the house, the meals or laundry, because he knows that he has a choice 1) wait for me to do it, 2)call my sister who is my cleaning lady, 3) do it himself.

My dh is the best! Never says anything about my spending, he doesn't spend much at all, ever! I have to admit I have been spending quite a bit on fabric lately!I need to slow down,I think!

Nicely Done!

My DH says you have a checkbook so use it but then he complains about the money. I remind him he has more money tied up in his antique car than I do in all of my fabric, machines and gadgets, Of course if I lived to be 100 I could never use it all.

So happy to hear that there are other DH's out there like mine. Many times I feel guilty for spending so much money, because he doesn't. He rarely spends money on himself, but he does like fishing gear and I usely buy that for him. He never complains about a messy house and says, "If it bothers me I will clean it up." And he does! He's definately a keeper.

My Hubby likes toys!
toy tractors,trucks,matchbox etc
He never says a word.
and if I mention that I know I spent alot
his comment is well you will use it eventually!

today is my 25th anniversary! and my DS and his wifes 1st!

In our house, DH and I have an unspoken understanding. DH would never dream of complaining about how much time I spend on my relaxing, creative scrapbooking and quilting hobbies and the lack of time I spend on housework. I would never dream of complaining about how much time he spends sitting at that stupid, waste-of-time, waste-of-money, brain-sucking computer and the hundreds of hours spent talking to his friends about the same dang topic over and over and over, and the lack of time he spends on the dead and dying lawn and landscaping.

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!!!

I was organizing in my sewing room on Sunday and DH wandered in and made the comment that "All this crap needs to go" meaning my sewing machines and stash. I tartly told him that this room (an 8x10) was Off Limits to him and none of his concern. Just like his 3 -20 ft containers that he has his "stuff" in is off limits to me. That was unless he was willing to share. He quickly retreated to the TV. We have been married 33 years and he still has hoof-in-mouth disease. :-)

I cannot stand the thought of having to ask DH for $$, so I have always had a job (sometimes working as little 1 day a week) just to ensure that I have money so I don't have to ask for his. Right now I have 2 part-time jobs and DH keeps the checks from one to put towards household expenses and I keep the checks from the other ... which is used for anything I want (including buying his birthday gift). Now I always feel like I can buy anything I want... I know how to budget and save... that is how I got my Janome MC11000se

I thought this would be appropriate to this conversation. It is an old one, but funny...

Jim -The Thoughtful Husband...


It is important for men to remember that, as women grow older, it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping as when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to yell at them. Some are
over-sensitive, and there's nothing worse than an over-sensitive woman.

My name is Jim. Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife, Peggy. When I retired a few years ago, it became necessary for Peggy to get a full-time job along with her part-time job, both for extra income and for
the health benefits that we needed.
Shortly after she started working, I noticed she was beginning to show her age. I usually get home from the golf club about the same time she gets home from work and although she knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to rest for half an hour or so before she starts dinner. I don't yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and just wake me when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men's Grill at the club so eating out twice is not reasonable. I'm ready for some home-cooked grub when I hit that door.
She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now it's not unusual for them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically reminding her several times each evening that they won't clean themselves. I know she really appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.
Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example she will say that it is difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. But, boys, we take 'em for better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement. I tell her to stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won't have to rush so much. I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't hurt her any (if you know what I mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong points.
When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She had to take a break when she was only half finished mowing the lawn. I try not to make a scene. I'm a fair man. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big,
cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade and just sit for a while. And, as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well make one for me too.
I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Peggy. I'm not saying that showing this much consideration is easy.! Many men will find it difficult. Some will even find it impossible! Nobody knows better than I do
how frustrating women get as they get older.
However, guys, even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile. After all, we are put on this earth to help each other.

Signed
Jim

EDITOR'S NOTE:

Jim died suddenly on May 27 of a perforated rectum.The police report says he was found with a Calloway extra long 50-inch Big Bertha Driver II golf club jammed up his rear end, with barely 5 inches of grip showing and a sledge
hammer laying nearby. His wife Peggy was arrested and charged with murder. The all-woman jury took only 15 minutes to find her Not Guilty, accepting her defense that Jim somehow, without looking, accidentally sat down on his
golf club.

Happy Quilting!
susan

Tell us how you really feel! :-)

My solution to car shows...

My husband has never complained about the amount of money I spend on fabric (and I'm pretty thrifty about it, after all) but he does wonder at the bulk of my stash.

I'm ready for him if he ever does complain, though. He golfs every week, sometimes twice. You know how much fabric I could buy with the cost of a round of golf? I spend many happy minutes thinking about that...

Laurie

Angellight, I needed that. I have not laughed that loud in awhile. That is just too good. With that, I am adding that I have no DH, or anyone else fot that matter, besides my- self to answer to about my stash, etc. I do find it hard though to restrain myself when I find a good deal on fabric. I have to talk to myself very sternly and sometimes it even works.

hehehehe my husband both smokes and drinks beer.....I have pointed out to him that he spends so much more money on those cancer sticks and liver eater than I spend on my quilting and mine will last for generations, he will not live as long as the quilts will. He never says a word.....he also plays golf.....sooooo I don't think I have to worry.

More often than not, they just need a little reminder that there are TWO adults in the house that can do things... not just one!

Guess what: My DH also moved the TV into my quilting area on the third floor. He says it's being together just to be in the same room even if I have the sewing machine humming while he has the remote humming. He knows I'm enjoying myself and we are not so far removed from one another being on different floors. He also likes to encourage me. Like I need it!! LOL
I don't know for sure but maybe he realized that quilting is not 'just cutting fabric into small pieces so you can sew it back together into a large piece' That comment went over liike a lead balloon. Gotta love him! Sorry I went on so long.

My DH says that quilting makes as much sense as jumping out of a perfectly good air plane.
You take a beautiful piece of fabric and cut it up just to sew it back together again.
I tell him its the end result that matters..hehehe

My DH understands my quilting habit, but every time I buy fabric I usually buy him something too. That way it's "hey honey, look what I bought you...oh, and I bought some fabric too." :D

My huband toys are for more expensive tractor, trails. So he does not say anything to me. He happy and I happy.

and that's the way I like it ah huh, ah huh, that's the way I like it!