This is so rude it's almost funny. How can anyone sign their name to an invitation like this. I would not go. Even if it was a friend of mine, after such a request I just would not go.

I actually saw that happen once. A couple we knew got married and asked that no wedding gifts be given, instead bring a gently used or new item for donation to shelter.

With many couples living together before marriage, they may have already set up the house hold & have many things that normally would be received at a shower. With that said, I still think the 'gift card only' is tacky. They should have registered & put only the items needed on the registry

I agree it's very tacky...My nephew did something even tackier...he announced his wedding date but didn't invite, then at the bottom he went into a rather lengthy religious diatribe and ended it with "cash is most appreciated". He got NOTHING from me. They were both living at home at the time so household things would have been helpful for them to set up a new home, but to say send cash was so rude!!!

I think it is tacky to ask for cash or gift cards. I was just invited to a shower where it stated on the invitation "no boxed gifts". I had no idea what this meant until I asked and it means they only want cash or gift cards. I was very put off by this.

I immediately discard any invitation that states gift cards only ... this is rude ... has the meaning of "gift" changed over years?

Very Tacky!!!!

I usually give what I give and that is that. I don't go to speciality shops...can't afford that.

Give these people a lovely wedding card, signed by you, wishing them the best and THAT will be their "gift card." :)

I've never heard of the gift card idea. Personally, I would rather not attend either shower. Ultimately I feel that a gift is just that ... a gift that you decide to give because you want to, not because you are told to.