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Almost every quilt I have come across in yard sales in GA were done this way. Even the ones that were quilted. Time honored tradition. And if you are happy with the outcome that is all that matters.
She gets her's machine quilted. Horrors!!! doesn't she know that the only Proper way to finish a quilt is hand quilted. She better get busy. lol |
I do it that way too at times. It depends on how much fabric I have left around the edges. You can make your quilt anyway you want to.
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What you are doing is called hemming. That's the way the older quilters always bound their quilts.
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thanks#1peacemaker! I didn't know that
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are we sisters? lol! I'm just glad my mother doesn't quilt! I've done a couple that way and see no problem with it.
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So sorry to hear your mom is so critical. She must be unhappy with her life. My mom was always complaining too. But I miss her. Often they are speaking to themselves instead of us. Does she have a machine you 2 could drop the feed dogs and do machine quilting on to finish her quilts? Maybe she wants some time together. If not often I rent a machine at a local quilt shop and do my large quilts.
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who makes the rules? enjoy your craft!
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Airwick156 do we have the same mother?
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You are doing everything correct. She is soooo wrong
in her judgement of your way of doing things. When she starts to finish her quilts, she will realize that your way is really the smart way. |
Originally Posted by Quilter7x
Yes it's cheating but I've done it many times! :lol: I like to use a decorate stitch on the front rather than stitching it down by hand because it secures all the edges together. Go for it!
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Bless your heart! Don't let it get you down. A tied quilt is a quilt. I have a friend that hand quilts and ties quilts. She won a blue rilbbon on a tied quilt at last year fair! I bind my quilts any way that I feel like! Rules for quilting are not set in concrete!
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your mother sounds like the ladies from my local "quilting group" who were snobby and didnt want to let a beginner in their elite group. Im am self teaching myself quilting and thanks to these ladies(and gentlemen) Im learning more every day..:)
Originally Posted by Airwick156
I am doing binding on my quilt. There is enough of the backing fabric that I can just fold it over on all sides and hand sew it for the binding. My mother just called me and asked what I was doing and I told her that I was doing the binding on my quilt. And she proceeded to say "How are you doing it? You cheating and just folding it over or did you make real binding for it?" in just her normal mean voice she uses with me whenever she talks to me. I told her I just folded it over, no need to waste the fabric when its already there. And I can't afford to buy the extra fabric. So I use what I am able to use. I see no problem with this but she sure does and definitely makes me will aware of that fact.
When I make a quilt, I complete the whole thing before I go onto the next one. I do have a few quilt tops, mostly lap quilts that I have not gotten the backing on. Now she has probably a hundred if not more Tops that will never get done as she only likes to make the tops. But yet she complains and tells me how to do my quilts. Most of the time I can remind myself to just "rise above it" and "this too shall pass" attitude, but this time it seems to have really upset me. Because not only did she say that she also told me that I was wasting all my time making quilts since I don't have the money to get them machine quilted. I tie all of them, but one day, I am going to be able to get one machine quilted. I don't think I am wasting my time not at all. I enjoy making them even though I am not very good at it, but I am learning maybe slowly but I am learning. Okay...that said..."this too shall pass" finally kicked in and now I'm waiting for "Rise above it". Maybe if I fix me a cup of hot tea that will help. LOL :) Thanks for letting me vent. |
God bless you and give you strength to hit the "rise above" button! I have folded over for binding. They look fine. Keep on keeping on girl.
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Saying a prayer for your mother to be more considerate and helpful. You can do your quilt anyway you like. I have done them that way and used the machine to do some of them to make sure the stitches held. God bless you.
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Just calmly say "yes, Mother". Any time and anything, just say "yes, Mother". If it comes back, don't be a snot--"yes Mother. Its hard to argue etc with someone who is agreeing with them. Hopefully eventually she will get the message. Ignore her criticisms and do it your way. Be the bigger person and just ignore what she complains about, many people still tie their quilts. Bringing backing over to the front is a perfectly acceptable way to finish. Besides they are your quilts, and I suspect she may be jealous because yours are actually better than hers. Just hang in there, be positive and ignore the complaints. I suspect she senses she is loosing power over you and resents that.
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Do it all the time. It makes a nice lead in to a pretty backing. I especially do it for charity quilts as it takes less time so I can start another quilt! Sometime try using your domestic machiune to stitch in the ditch around blocks--it holds it all together well and it is quilting.
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Please do not let your Mother make you feel bad. There are no rules to quilting, except "enjoy the process"!
My Mother was just like your Mother. She constantly found fault with most everything I did. She wasn't happy until she was making me miserable. For my own piece of mind, and that of my husband and daughters, I had to limit my contact with her. You have to be your own person and be happy with yourself. If your mother can't be happy with you then she is missing out on a wonderful relationship. I know my mother did. |
I have learned the hard way over the years that the people that put down others do so to feel better about themsevles because if they can put you down then they are better than you.
I often fold my backing over just because it is quick and easy. When I learned to quilt my granny taught me to tie. I did that a long time before I learned to machine quilt. You just keep enjoying yourself. |
Originally Posted by shawnemily
There are no rules! It is your creation and you can make it any way you want!
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Your mother sounds like my mother, never a conversation that she did not make a mean comment about me. She is NOT the quilt police. Enjoy your work! We don't all make our quilts the same way or for quilt shows only ! They are made to be used and loved. Diane C.
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We just did a raffle quilt for our church turning the backing over. Looks nice
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Originally Posted by Airwick156
I am doing binding on my quilt. There is enough of the backing fabric that I can just fold it over on all sides and hand sew it for the binding. My mother just called me and asked what I was doing and I told her that I was doing the binding on my quilt. And she proceeded to say "How are you doing it? You cheating and just folding it over or did you make real binding for it?" in just her normal mean voice she uses with me whenever she talks to me. I told her I just folded it over, no need to waste the fabric when its already there. And I can't afford to buy the extra fabric. So I use what I am able to use. I see no problem with this but she sure does and definitely makes me will aware of that fact.
When I make a quilt, I complete the whole thing before I go onto the next one. I do have a few quilt tops, mostly lap quilts that I have not gotten the backing on. Now she has probably a hundred if not more Tops that will never get done as she only likes to make the tops. But yet she complains and tells me how to do my quilts. Most of the time I can remind myself to just "rise above it" and "this too shall pass" attitude, but this time it seems to have really upset me. Because not only did she say that she also told me that I was wasting all my time making quilts since I don't have the money to get them machine quilted. I tie all of them, but one day, I am going to be able to get one machine quilted. I don't think I am wasting my time not at all. I enjoy making them even though I am not very good at it, but I am learning maybe slowly but I am learning. Okay...that said..."this too shall pass" finally kicked in and now I'm waiting for "Rise above it". Maybe if I fix me a cup of hot tea that will help. LOL :) Thanks for letting me vent. |
I wish I had thought of doing a fold-over binding on my last quilt! I've never done one, then my daughter bought me the "Quilters Bible" for Christmas and it gave the how-to. Unfortunately I'd already trimmed the edges too short by then. Next time!! Don't let your Momma get you down... chances are her mother was just as rigid in her thinking. Let change start with you! :) God bless!
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That's not cheating. That is just one of the ways to finish a quilt. At least you are finishing the quilt. Yep. Maybe a nice cup of tea (or two). And yes "this too shall pass". Mothers will be mothers. LOL
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That is a perfectly acceptable way to bind a quilt that is shown in many quilting how-to books. I agree with the one person. No matter what you have to scrimp in, I would invest in an answering machine with caller ID so you can tell when she is calling and not answer. When you have a "Toxic Mother" (my counselor's title, not mine) it is best to just avoid and ignore. Good luck, and don't let the nasty get to you.
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Dear Airwick
I'm not shocked that your mother is acting toward you the way she is. After all, she is a mother and that's what mother's are for is to guide their children whether male or female. I do believe your mother takes this responsibility a bit too far. You are out on your own now and should expect respect from your mother rather than a put down when you tell her something. Please, take the advise of on 82 year old mother who has been there. I, too, was eager to help my grown children, Not harping and complaining as your mother does, but just handing out unsolicited advice. My oldest son woke me up to the fact that grown children have the right to make their own mistakes and pay for them. I also learned that children appreciate a mother's love more if a small compliment, a smile and a hug is given now and again. The best thing you can do is attempt to ignore her complaints. In the interim try to find a way to kindly tell her to "butt out". If nothing else, tell her "To let go and let God direct your life." |
"I don't think I am wasting my time not at all. I enjoy making them". This quote from your note says it all . Hang in there I know how you are feeling My Mother is the same way. As long as it makes YOU HAPPY then live will work out any problem. I have tied quilts for many years and think they are beautiful . Some machine quilted ones never get Loved or worn thin. Lots HUGS l :thumbup:
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no way is it cheating, that is the way it was done,the sew on method is the new fangled way .lol. Ant tying the quilt makes it the warmest hug ever. the closer it is quilted the less warmth. Just so you can tell her, Next time ask her if she would like for you to finish one of hers for her. Bet she will take you up on it.
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I have a friend whose mother is 86 and she has been quilting most of her life. She hand quilts beautiful feathers and all those georgous other designs. She ALSO turns her fabric from the back to the front to bind the quilt! This is a time honored tradition! So your mother is WRONG! Wrong! wrong!
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There is no such thing as cheating at this. It is your quilt, you do it how you want. It is for your joy and noone elses. Don't let ANYONE ruin your passion and pleasure. Even Moms can be Meanies. Luckily, I got a good one.
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I don't even KNOW how to do what you are talking about, so you're way ahead of me, Airwick. My Mom thinks everything I make is beautiful because she has never sewn a day in her life. If your Mom can't appreciate the beauty of what you are doing and the fact that you are creating for others, then come here..........we ALL appreciate the time it takes and the gift you were given to do it. I think you have a beautiful attitude about rising above it, but do look into that "call waiting" suggestion too. I use it with my brother; he whines a lot. LOL.
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I do this but instead of bringing the backing around I allow enough of the top to fold it to the back.
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I am sorry she does this to you - everyone is right - just do it your way and be happy - Some people are just naturally trying to pull us down - At least you finish and you are happy with the result and that's what counts
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If she isn't finishing her quilts, it sounds to me as if she is jealous of your ability to finish them! Focus on your fabric rather than on letting her push your buttons. :)))
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Moms have a way of "pushing our buttons," don't they? My mom has been gone for five years, and she's STILL pushing my buttons. I'm 66 years old. You'd think that I'd be OVER this by now! So just "cowboy up," and live your own life, doing what YOU have decided is best for you.
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It is hard when our mothers critize us because we so want to please them. Just remember this, even though important, your mother's opinion is just that. It is your work and if she doesn't like it just don't show it to her or tell her about it. If you want to be nasty you could remind her of all the tops she has done but hasn't completed a quilt. Maybe then she will keep her opinions to herself. I am sure that your family and friends appreciate your hard work and are very happy to recieve a quilt from you. Keep quilting.
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Originally Posted by Airwick156
I am doing binding on my quilt. There is enough of the backing fabric that I can just fold it over on all sides and hand sew it for the binding. My mother just called me and asked what I was doing and I told her that I was doing the binding on my quilt. And she proceeded to say "How are you doing it? You cheating and just folding it over or did you make real binding for it?" in just her normal mean voice she uses with me whenever she talks to me. I told her I just folded it over, no need to waste the fabric when its already there. And I can't afford to buy the extra fabric. So I use what I am able to use. I see no problem with this but she sure does and definitely makes me will aware of that fact.
When I make a quilt, I complete the whole thing before I go onto the next one. I do have a few quilt tops, mostly lap quilts that I have not gotten the backing on. Now she has probably a hundred if not more Tops that will never get done as she only likes to make the tops. But yet she complains and tells me how to do my quilts. Most of the time I can remind myself to just "rise above it" and "this too shall pass" attitude, but this time it seems to have really upset me. Because not only did she say that she also told me that I was wasting all my time making quilts since I don't have the money to get them machine quilted. I tie all of them, but one day, I am going to be able to get one machine quilted. I don't think I am wasting my time not at all. I enjoy making them even though I am not very good at it, but I am learning maybe slowly but I am learning. Okay...that said..."this too shall pass" finally kicked in and now I'm waiting for "Rise above it". Maybe if I fix me a cup of hot tea that will help. LOL :) Thanks for letting me vent. |
It's the way many older quilts are finished. My mom did them that way in the thirties and definitely in war time. The war time quilts that were sent to Britain by the Canadian Red Cross were usually done that way.
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These are your quilts, I think you can finish them up your way as long as the method can handle washing and wear.
Quilting is our way of expressing ourselves and using our artistic license. Every quilt you make you will learn from and you will improve. We don't improve our skills if we don't use them. Whats that old saying -practice, practice, practice. Keep on quilting and have fun and enjoy the process. :thumbup: |
My mom was very critical of everything I did,nothing was good enough including me and I rose to the top of my profession but that was not good enough.She was an award winning quilter and I did not like quilting while she was alive.After she died I took up quilting.I bet there is a correlation to me not quilting while she was alive and her dying and it became my passion. It is your art do what makes you happy!Set boundary and tell her discussing your quilts is off limits. .What part of Oregon are you in?
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