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Nope, you didn't break your promise in my book. Couldn't finish it without it so trust me, he will be happy with the final project once its done!

No don't think you broke your promise.. How can you finish your WIP if you didn't have the fabric in your stash.

I Wonder.............I agree with you!

I don't think so. You promised to finish the WIP and you needed supplies to do it ... you didn't buy the fabric for a new project. Heck, if DH was building shelves and ran out of nails wouldn't he buy the nails to finish it? Seams like the same thing to me. :)

My rule is always that if you're working on a UFO/WIP and need additional border/backing fabric, it's okay. You just have to get to right about when you're ready to use it (rather than buying it and keeping it for a year)

Nope! Quilts have to have backs, just like people hahaha

I would say it depends on what his definition of finished is. And if the top was completed and only needed backing?

If the top was incomplete and I went shopping for a back, I think that would be breaking the promise.

in my house that would be considered breaking the promise since i have an extensive stash and surely could have found some fabric that would work for the backing.

Nope, this doesn't count. No rules broken.

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Originally Posted by jillaine

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Originally Posted by deema

Maybe if you'd mentioned it to him before heading to the store, he wouldn't feel like you'd broken the promise?

I think Deema nailed it. Most of our partner-woes can be boiled down to lack of or mis- communication.

And really, it doesn't matter what WE think about whether or not you broke your promise. (We're not married to you.) The key is: your spouse felt you did.

I would simply apologize, and then come to a revised agreement about what you should do if/when this situation occurs in the future.

Best to you,
Jillaine

That was my line of thinking - mis-communication. I'm glad someone saw that...I was worried some might see it as "asking permission"...which is something I never do in my marriage...but I do tell him what purchases I plan to make for the simple fact that the money is all coming and going from the same place and we should both know about it. While I don't see it as a promise broken, I can understand why he might feel that way, especially if there were not any mentioned "stipulations" to the agreed to promise (such as making a purchase to finish a project). I agree that it might be a good time to create such a stipulation, should this situation arise in the future.