My husband complains if I want to spend money on fabric, if it's only $5.00! I have to sneak it in so he doesn't get mad. Does anyone else have this problem?

Not I, as a matter of fact my husband helps me pick out fabrics to work with.

Mine doesn't get mad, but he certainly rolls his eyes... and I do *not* spend large amounts on fabric when he's with me. He doesn't get mad, but I don't want to hear it!

My husband enables my habit, and goes around the shop finding fabric that might fit my project!!! Want to borrow him for a shopping trip????????? Just Kidding!!! (about the borrowing part!)

No, quite the opposite, mine encourages me and is always interested in what I buy!

Nope, I'm the one with the guilty conscience. :)

me too :roll:

I have to say Sylvia mine is the same as yours. Mine just doesnt get it. He always say you can just go buy a bed in a bag for 40$ why do you need to spend all that money on a quilt What I do is buy 1 yard here 1 yard there. Doesnt make for a good amount if you want to plan a quilt but it makes nice scrappy quilts
One day maybe but for now he hates it

I'm so sorry you ladies have such negativity joined with your wonderful happy hobby! It's a good thing it creates SO much joy, it should override your DHs negativities!

I am very lucky as well! My hubby has his hobby and I have mine....MIne encourages me. I am sorry for you ladies that don't ...maybe they will come around!

I don't bother my fiance about his spending habits (computer parts and donations to NPR and the ACLU) and he doesn't bother me about my yarn and fabric :)

For those of you who have complaining spouses, maybe if you make him/her a quilt of their own, showcasing a hobby or something special they like, it might change the way they think about your hobby... Worth a try, maybe? ;-)

i used to have a problem with mine but since i made him a john deer lap quilt he wanted me to make one for his brother and his cousin and on and on so now he bought me two machines and a quilting machine and frame. now he goes with me to shop for fabric and in some cases i ask for his in put. sometimes i show him a quilt or throw i made and he likes it so much i give it to him he likes me to make table toppers and toppers for the furniture the dressers and night stands in the bedroom he keeps me busy. the one thing he will do is come and pull me out of the sewing room because he is hungry BUT IT TOOK 45 years to get here

memathomas

I made him one. He likes it, I made him a flannel plaid rag quilt.
Maybe if I get him a hobby that he has to spend money on he would lighten up but ohh well what can I say I picked him :P

Mine doesn't complain but I'm sure he doesn't realize what I spend. He has his hobbies (fishing, bowling and a greenhouse). He goes to Los Vegas once a year, I go to Paducah and retreats. So I guess the answer is for him to get a life!

LOL i think your right

we don't live your life, so don't really have enough facts to provide a fair and accurate answer. i have no idea how big an affect that $5 has on the health of your family budget.

i came of age in the 70s. clouds of smoke from burning bras hung thick in the air. i never had to break the chains of oppression because i refused to put them on in the first place.

unless you're a spendaholic and have driven your family to the brink of financial ruin, i just can't imagine tolerating that attitude or treatment from a spouse. it's a Certificate of Marriage. NOT a Deed of Ownership.

if you aren't spending money you really need for necessities, offer him two choices: (1) see a shrink; or (2) go jump in a lake.

My daughter complains all the time. (I'm divorced) But I just ignore her and remind her she's not my husband so stop complaining and stop being bossy. (rofl)

Nope, he goes with me and takes it to the counter to get it cut while I still shop for more. :thumbup: Sorry girls, hes mine! LOL

My husband doesn't know what i spend on fabric, and he doesn't seem interested in my hobby. He has asked me to make baby quilts to give to the guys at his work, who's wives have just had babies. and i do it for him. cheerfully!
He has a motorcycle hobby, and it is an expensive one. i have never asked him about about the money he spends. The bills are paid,he works hard, and i am not his mother.
I am trying this year, to stashbust,finish up the UFO's,use what i have.
when he was laid off, i quit buying anything for 8 months. and rightly so.

Since I'm a pre-washer, there's always a pile waiting to be washed sitting on the dryer. So as long as I'm not buying fabric with naked girls on it or something else racy that would get noticed right away, he pretty much just sees the "same" pile of fabric waiting to be washed.

The bills are paid, I'm happy and he's oblivious.

Motto to live by...

'Happy wife...happy life!'

Julie

You ladies with supportive spouses and partners are indeed fortunate. Mine not only complains about the amount of "stuff" I have but also makes nasty comments about "creating works of beauty for others when I could be doing so many more productive things". Other things for him mean cleaning or gardening which I do in moderation or when it's necessary. He also is very against me making anything for "perfect strangers" which makes it difficult when I am chair of Community Quilts for my local guild. I don't think his attitude will ever change and should I leave this world before him, I'm sure he would just use our son's dump truck and clean out my sewing room. In other matters, he is a nice guy so why the big hate for my stitching has always been a mystery to me.

My husband has never said a word, I guess I pretty lucky

My husband works in the fabric industry (curtains) so he is well aware of the cost of fabric and the differences in quality. He appreciates good quality and beautiful colours and patterns and is happy to trundle around all the quilt shops with me.

No. My husband has his hobby and I don't complain about it and he doesn't complain about mine.

I can't imagine having to "sneak" fabric or anything into the house that I have bought.

Sybil

That just cracked me up.



Sybil

My husband supports my habit-in fact he will tell me if you need money I'll go pick up a side job so you can go to that sale. he is wonderful (but he has hobbies too sooo it works both ways lol)
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April

It's jealousy.

BRAVO!!!!!!!!!!!

What's it worth?
Food shoping?, Cooking three meals a day?, Wash, dry and fold laundry? Vacuum, dust, clean the Bathroom (make sure there's paper). Take care of shoping and gift wraping for all holiday's. Take care kids. That's just the short list.
Sylvia, your time is worth something. Your husband needs to see your true value.

Sewsweet I love your avatar picture!
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April

Patrice is right, we don't know your life. I do know one thing, for someone to deliberately make me feel bad and know that it makes me feel bad is not someone I'd be around for an hour much less a lifetime.
If money is the problem then you have to be responsible and equal in how it is spent.
I made several online fabric orders this week and it never occurred to me to tell DH about it. And if I did he would just look at me and say That's good, Hon. He does know the box marked Connecting Threads is something that will make me smile when he brings it in!

My hubby has never complained about the fabric I buy. He knew about my addiction to fabric before we were married. :) His addiction is video games. He has a XBox 360 and a WII.

Mine is an enabler. When I come back from the quilt shop his words are "Is that all you bought" I am one of the lucky ones.

I am very lucky, like some of you mine is pretty understanding. He will travel to quilt shops and even help find fabrics for projects he knows I am working on.He is even partaking in my search for a new machine. As long as I produce a finished project every now & then he doesn't say to much. I don't usually do huge shopping w/ him...just keeps the peace...I just know how far I can push my luck.
He doesn't have any hobbies but he does know he doesn't wanna be anywhere around me if I am having withdrawals...but that being said it has taken me 7 yrs to him this way.
It is what it is and we do what we have to stay happy.

Mine is middle of the road. He doesnt really complain, but he knows what a "collector" I am and he thinks I have too much in my stash. Doesnt really voice that opinion, I just know that is what he is thinking. He does have a big motorcycle that he bought (thats another story) and he just filled up his woodworking shop with big tools (some inheritance money) so I figure we are even! He is going to make me some furniture pieces for my new "stuido", so all in all I figure that neither one of us should be complaining!

Mine does complain, because I don't sew as often as I should. I think if he could see more end product it would make him happier. He just doesn't understand the importance of a "stash" or how fabrics come and go....making for one having to buy it when it is out there if it is something I just have to have.

I'm so lucky to have a wonderful hubby that understands what makes me happy. I've sewed all my life(made my own clothes while in school) and my Mother started me with the quilting bug. It's a huge "addiction" now. My sewing room was a spare bedroom with a queen bed in it. I always complained about not having enough room to move around and sew and my hubby said, "Let's take the bed out and you'd have more room." I resisted for a few years, I finally took the bed out with his help. Now I'm in the process of making a real sewing room. Why did I fight it all these years? He takes me to the fabric store and when we take a trip up north we stop at Paducah and he helps me carry the fabric out to the car. He pays the bill and asks me if I need anything else while we're out. I'll keep my hubby for a long time. If I'm not happy then nobody's happy.

I'm another one that has a supportive qubby. Last week, he drove Peggy and I to Portland so we could go check out the Fabric Depot in person instead of just online. He came into the store for a few to check it out, and then went out to the car and got on his laptop to harvest his crops on Farmville! :D
Never said a word one about how much I spent, even tho we really can't afford it right now...of course it didn't hurt that I bought fabric to make him two new Hawaiian shirts! (He collects them...has more than 40 right now)

Nope, in fact my husband spent almost $100 at a quilt show on all the square in square rulers and books by jodi barrow. He does laugh at all my unfinished projects.